11 Iyar, 5773
One of the issues explored in
addresses is the question "Why?" As in "WHY, WHY, WHY,
I have no doubt that thousands of people are asking that about the Boston Marathon Massacre. I shudder to realize how callous the pat, trite responses that "We can never know 'Why,' or 'Why is a crooked letter (and hence a forbidden question)'" will seem to sad people trying to recover from the shock and misery.
In the hope of easing some pain and suffering, Here's an excerpt from the EMPOWER Yourself book. It is followed by a thought I've added today, for the next edition:
Are you weaker for not knowing the reason
for your suffering? Not necessarily. Learning
to deal with unknowns is part of your growth.
It leads to the next psychological step, and
it's a good one!
You have the medical crisis and you don’t
know why. That leaves you with a great
big "WHAT?" What are you going to do about your medical crisis or that of your loved one?
Back in Chapter Two, I asked you to list the positive actions, ideas, and emotions you and/or your loved one can pursue in order
to cope with the medical crisis at hand.
You can revisit that chapter as often as you wish, and keep adding answers. You can
also eliminate responses that no longer
make sense to you.
Remember: The alternative to coping with a given problem is worse. It’s called not coping
in all the unpleasant ways possible.
Do you know what you're doing? You're being proactive. You are taking charge instead of lying around behaving in Victim Mode.
Here’s a thought for readers with another take on the “Why?” questions they have.
Sometimes the question "Why?" means "How can I focus on what I need to spiritually accomplish?" or "What have I left undone/
What needs to be achieved emotionally, physically or otherwise?"
It is not necessarily a question of anger or doubt, or an accusation that GOD owes us
better than what we're getting.
"Why?" can be a most pro-active word that leads us into a moral inventory (a “fearless” moral inventory for the more honest stock-assessors among us).
From there we can work on reasonable solutions and increasingly better perspectives that help us to heal.
Share your feedback with me. I'll be delighted to share signed and verified reader reactions to this blogpost in the next edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.
Buy the E-book or print edition today for a brighter look at tomorrow. Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.
Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.
Face your questions with courage. Let it grow over time.