Putting People - and Perspective - in their Place

B'SD

16 Shvat, 5775

(I'm posting this message a bit earlier than so I can travel to see some friends without missing a blogpost.)

Life comes with plenty of agony. It also comes with options.

I recently interacted with people who were purposely causing pain to others to attract sympathy or respect in a vengeful manner. Not a good idea.

I coach people to understand that 
"X, Y and Z did not cause your pain or problem. 

Punishing them for it is pointless. 

Push back the anger and fear. 

Be your best self, and come out cultured, kind and compassionate. 

You'll respect yourself more over time.
Other people will, too."

I hope you'll let me know your thoughts about that.

 

Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 

   

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Smile when you look in the mirror. You're doing your best and passed a test.

Hug Time!

B'SD

Adar 4, 5773

Today's Valentine's Day around the world, though it's not celebrated by Torah-minded Jews. No matter your religion, that doesn't stop some people from feeling wistful about wanting to love someone else, to  be loved or to love yourself on a deep, spiritual level.

The whole concept of love is multifaceted. Wanna take some of the mystery out of it?

Rabbi Noah Weinberg z'l defines love as "The pleasure we experience when we identify someone with their virtues, while accepting them with their faults." (OK, singles and everyone else, heed the life-lesson and end some self-inflicted misery).

Worried that you're at odds with 

someone you're trying to love 

despite hardships between you?

Laugh. The experience can promote a sense of joy that turns the sense of terror and concern in our hearts and minds into harmless stuff. Your fears can melt away with the sense of restored happiness. You can even learn to laugh at them.

Go out and find something to enjoy. Listen to silly comic routines (try The 2000-year Old Man for starters), rejoice over someone's victories (babies have them each time they reach milestones), and coax yourself to be willing to loosen up a bit.

Competent therapists can help you if necessary.

OH - if you need to de-clutter, here are some handy hints to help you: 12 Myths about Cleaning a Mess.

Need to help someone (maybe yourself) to make peace and love with an illness or disability of some sort?  Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge and buy it today.  THAT's a thoughtful gift any time of year!  

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism. 

Learn how to love challenges in life. They make YOU a more valuable person for facing them with increasing courage, humor and good sense. Feel the self-respect grow! It's a emotional hug to reassure you.