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My Self-Help Coaching work brings me into other people's lives. I've had occasion to hear clients telling me of lively but very troubling relationships that they mistakenly called "Friendships."
Here's a One Size Fits All definition of friendship: "Friendship isn't about who you have known the longest. It's about those who came and never left your side ..."
By being at your side, those people seek to improve your lot in life with productive assistance, be it financial, a shoulder to cry on, a sounding board for reflecting ideas back to you so they make better sense or by performing tasks that ease your pain. Simple, heartfelt fun is also the core basis of a friendship. Friendliness makes you feel elevated, makes you feel that you're a better person than you thought. Life seems so much sweeter with a healthy friendship. It reassures you that the actions you've taken and the thoughts you've pondered are good for you or, something ill advised. A real friend points out what can or cannot work for your benefit.
Your illness is one thing. If someone likes taking you on guilt trips, or blaming themselves or you about why suffering is happening, don't go along for the adventure. Why you're sick is between you and The One Above, not the gossips down on Earth. Illness is not cause for mentally or actually punishing people you know.
Friendship increases happiness. It is not about symbolic victories that hurt other people, not about punishing someone on your behalf. Friendship makes your heart lighter and your lips curve into a genuine smile.
There's a lot of heartwarming stuff about friendship in EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. Read it with those real friends helping you through your medical challenge.
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life
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