Save your sanity, time & money!

You need to know how to meet your medical and/or mental health needs NOW. You're struggling to survive moment by moment. And you need your dignity.

You're rushing to appointments (the ones you remembered) and/or wondering which treatment to use. Meanwhile, your costs are rising, your needs are changing and you hardly know how to make sense of what to do first, second and later. What about the emotions boiling inside you? How can you calm down with all that's going on?

A former medical coder and medical writer, I've been in your position. I survived a life-threatening emergency with information only a person with my professional experience would know: How to find medical innovators, medical experts and charitable organizations willing to pay part or all of an applicant's specific medical costs, who has software to simplify medical appointment scheduling, a sensible list of items to pack for hospital stays, and more.

I knew that I'd pulled through because of my ability to connect with resources I needed. I knew that most patients lack that knowledge. I decided to provide it, to minimize your suffering.

I believe in empowering terrified, confused and unhappy people with dire diagnoses. I believe that patients should not suffer insults to their dignity in medical settings. I provide information that can help you to manage your problems better, maybe to end them, in the book.

Calm down. Organize your life better. You just might get your grin back.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Want to Know What to Say to Rude Visitors, Relatives and Former Friends?


13 Sivan 5771

Have you ever wondered why someone
chafes at your comments
when you try to comfort them?

Have you ever boiled with anger
at someone's tactless remarks
when they spoke to you or about
your medical situation?

There's an art in knowing
what to say and when
during time shared with
someone who's sick,
recovering or facing disabilities.

It can be learned.
It is based on mutual respect.

The New York Times has an insightful "What to Say to Someone Who's Sick" article that I recommend you read. The only thing missing from it is what to say to rude visitors, relatives and former friends who just don't catch on to polite behavior around someone who's ill.

The good news is that you can find some responses that medical and mental health professionals endorse in
"EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge." The "Power to the Patient" preface guides you in what to say to clueless people.

Sometimes, apparently clueless people are actually out to hurt your feelings (there are too many reasons to count for the behavior on this blog). They imply that you're not doing enough, good enough, fill in the blank. Know that the insults are one-upping events. The speakers insinuate that they're better than you. Pages 4-7 offer STOPYACOLD responses to the nonsense. The License to Cry is worth a lifetime of emotional relief.

Share those passages, and others if you wish, with loved ones - even your medical team if the staff is agreeable.

Restore your self-respect. Know what to say to people hurting your feelings, and when.
EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge
. Medical and mental health professionals recommend it.

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

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