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Here's something I posted to Facebook earlier today:
My own life included the brutal dismissal of my decreasing vision and balance abilities as "Excuses." Some people assumed that they knew my life better than I did. Some of them intentionally exposed me to imminent danger by refusing to assist me as requested.
and other setbacks as a result.
When a disability is not visible to observers, they can be quite heartless with inappropriate demands.
Remember the old slang expression about a bad attitude, "Badittude?"
Much of my Self-Help coaching efforts focus on helping people to recover and to strengthen a sense of self-worth/dignity after people have been inexcusably cruel to them.
The public needs to know that asking open-ended, clarifying questions is necessary before reaching conclusions. Without the answers to those
questions, nobody has the right to appoint themselves judges, juries or executioners of people. They lack sufficient information to reach sensible conclusions. Their inevitable rush to judgement is a nasty phenomenon that causes unnecessary pain.
The "Well, I just assumed..." excuse is invalid, spelling pun fully intended.
Do the world a favor this holiday season. Make it a spiritual time filled with insight and compassion you'll have gained by not rushing to conclusions. Begin by asking thoughtful questions that lead to informative answers. Indulge in patience for the person before you.
And share this blogpost - on both sides of the medical challenge - with people who need it.
There are several sections in the
book to help the wider world to understand the "Need to know" phenomenon, and lessons for behaving far better in the future.
Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.
Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.
Fix your battitude. You just might find things to admire in those of us dealing with invisible hardships. And that can strengthen you.