Your Tendencies are NOT a Life Sentence

B'SD

18 Elul, 5778

One of the dominant themes of the EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge print and E- book is that you need not be locked into a psychological limitation. People are able to choose their attitudes and perspectives, even to get their grins back (my goal in helping you!) despite painful setbacks and situations.

I use the empowerment/ability to choose a new way of thinking and behaving model when I coach people, too.

Listen to the intention embedded in my response below. It was directed to someone who decided that she cannot behave in any manner other than the one to which she's psychologically inclined according to the Enneagram (a system for gaining insight into our instincts, motives, preferences, strengths, and weaknesses, plus those of other people):

"Being a specific number is not a life sentence. Some of us grow up. It is a matter of mastering the insights into our personalities, developing the character/maturity to stifle impulses so that we don't sabotage our self interests, and choosing to remain in the ideal level. It takes work and practice plus a sense of commitment. The Enneagram is a tool for growth, not an excuse for remaining stuck."

Everything that I do in life involves making a choice that will serve my needs, including my physical and mental health. All of us need to do that. It's called "maturity."





Smile as you and whomever you share the book with grow insightful and emotionally stronger together. 

Nurture the development of your insights into the gamut of emotions when someone is ill. 

Learn how to calm down and to stay that way longer than before. 

Solve financial problems by reading the contact information for charitable organizations willing to pay some or all of your specific medical expenses.

Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Fill your mind and behavior with wise choices that leave you proud of yourself. Grow.

Exciting News!

B'SD

13 Nisan, 5777

While I'm enjoying the freshness and fun of my fully functional Passover/Pesakh Mode kitchen, I'm taking time to respond to editors seeking my input for future online and print articles.

I have exciting book reviews coming up and I'll be responding to Questions for Life Coaches. You can be sure that I'll share relevant publication news with you. Who knows? You might come across something that suits you, too!

No matter which holiday you celebrate this season, spend time thinking over the significance of spirituality. It's purpose is to make us more compassionate, more willing to share our resources, and more resilient when we face hardships. Spirituality practiced correctly helps us to rise above our limitations. We can become wonderful, accomplished, insightful, nicer than we have been.

My frequently used tool for helping someone is the Enneagram, a method for understanding the quirks of human personalities and the tools for working with them in productive ways.

Here's a bit of insight on how I help people to deal with unhappiness, disappointment, pain and life in general:

 I had an amusing conversation with a therapist who asked me to help her to write a thesis about the wisdom of using the Enneagram. I replied "But I can do that in one sentence: You will learn that a person's characteristics are 'givens,' not a matter of good or bad, just 'givens' that can be dealt with in specific ways." After she gulped, I added "I am not advocating that personality, thought or mood disorders are acceptable. They are exceptions to the rule."

Certified in counseling skills and in spiritual chaplaincy (the ability to discuss end-of-life issues), I write for a mental health site at http://www.e-counseling.com/

I'm a life coach for ill people, helping them to identify the goals they need to reach, then to prepare a plan for achieving those goals.

A former medical coder/Health Information Management professional, I'm well-versed in the medical world's ins and outs, acquainted with astonishing people and cutting-edge treatments. 

Certified in Counseling Skills, and one of the first certified EMETT leaders (I no longer lead EMETT groups), I have studied psychology throughout my adult life.

Medical and mental health professionals have endorsed the EMPOWER Yourself book on and off the covers. 

I maintain a database of ever-updated medical information to help people to connect with the medical professionals and medical care, appliances, medication, etc. that they need. I even clue people in on cost-cutting programs that pay all or some of their specific medical bills. The book's Global Resources section holds much of that information.

Ready to figure out your health-oriented goals, and to set a plan for achieving them? Contact me at giveretgolani @ gmail.com.





Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 





Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Fill your time with meaningful thought and efforts.