Your Tendencies are NOT a Life Sentence

B'SD

18 Elul, 5778

One of the dominant themes of the EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge print and E- book is that you need not be locked into a psychological limitation. People are able to choose their attitudes and perspectives, even to get their grins back (my goal in helping you!) despite painful setbacks and situations.

I use the empowerment/ability to choose a new way of thinking and behaving model when I coach people, too.

Listen to the intention embedded in my response below. It was directed to someone who decided that she cannot behave in any manner other than the one to which she's psychologically inclined according to the Enneagram (a system for gaining insight into our instincts, motives, preferences, strengths, and weaknesses, plus those of other people):

"Being a specific number is not a life sentence. Some of us grow up. It is a matter of mastering the insights into our personalities, developing the character/maturity to stifle impulses so that we don't sabotage our self interests, and choosing to remain in the ideal level. It takes work and practice plus a sense of commitment. The Enneagram is a tool for growth, not an excuse for remaining stuck."

Everything that I do in life involves making a choice that will serve my needs, including my physical and mental health. All of us need to do that. It's called "maturity."





Smile as you and whomever you share the book with grow insightful and emotionally stronger together. 

Nurture the development of your insights into the gamut of emotions when someone is ill. 

Learn how to calm down and to stay that way longer than before. 

Solve financial problems by reading the contact information for charitable organizations willing to pay some or all of your specific medical expenses.

Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Fill your mind and behavior with wise choices that leave you proud of yourself. Grow.

With Blessings and Prayers for Genuine Peace

B'SD

14 Nisan, 5777

I look forward to the multi-faceted freedom messages in the holiday of Passover.

Video: Viktor Frankl, Passover, and the Meaning of Freedom: Taste the power of true freedom.

Yocheved Golani shared The Israel Project's photo.

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My home has been 100% kosher for Passover since Thursday. I like to spend time studying before seder night, and feeling rested/joyful then.

Wishing the world personal fulfillment, genuine peace and inner contentment.

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Wishing everyone a Happy, Healthy and Peaceful Passover.

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Yocheved Golani "Fascinated by the exquisite attention people devote to getting hilkhot Pesach (the laws of Passover) right. I find myself wondering: what if we took our obligations towards other people and their dignity just as or even more seriously? What if we found the idea of hurting or embarrassing another human being as intolerable and unbearable as we find the thought of a crumb of leaven remaining in our homes? A glimpse of what religion could be, should be, must be." -- Rabbi Shai Held, co-founder of New York's Mechon Hadar

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Yocheved Golani The segula that Rabbanit Yemima recommends for biyur chametz: Fill out a paper with the list of things you want to get rid of. Add it to the bag of chametz and watch those problems burn away in the morning. (PS - I added "The lack of Mashiakh")

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Yocheved Golani PSA: EVERYBODY and then some are heading to traffic jams near you! Be careful out there. http://www.ynetnews.com/articles/0,7340,L-4947509,00.html

Just before the holiday: the roads to avoid, basically all of them

Netivei Israel will try to change the traffic light schedules…

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Ready to shine? Read the Polishing Silver story in the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 





Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Fill your holiday season with true forgiveness of yourself and others. Enjoy the happiness.

You're NOT Searching for Your Life's Meaning. You're Creating it.

B'SD

11 Sivan, 5775

The 44C/107F-plus  weather in Israel has been brutally hot and physically plus mentally draining this week. 

I was simply too tired with the rest of life and the high heat to post messages on this blog. But I had a moving experience yesterday that I want to share with you.

I often volunteer my time, insights and efforts to help people or organizations in need of them. I tend to interact with people and situations involved in medical and/or emotional and mental health stress.

One of the people I'd recently helped took me out for a cup of coffee in an outdoor cafe as the excessively high heat cooled down for the Middle East night. We spoke of the person's life history (I had not previously known it), attitude toward the future, and assessment of a highly problematic past. The conversation became charged with spiritual implications and realizations.

I do Self-Help Coaching with clients who are uncertain of how to proceed with their futures because of their medical conditions. I help them to clarify their challenges, identify their goals and to create an agenda for achieving those goals. Then they're on their own, to make necessary efforts.

The person before me had done this without my input. I found the courage, clear headedness and humility captivating (please notice that I'm intentionally avoiding pronouns such as "him" or "her" so I can protect the person's privacy). With further discussion, we agreed that such a mindset is due to one specific focus:

You're not searching for your life's meaning. 

You're creating it.

So many people trek around the world, ingest (usually illegal and unsafe) substances or indulge in unproductive self-analysis as they seek emotional comfort. They remain stuck, not necessarily knowing why that's so. People who are "looking for themselves" tend be trying to escape their thinking processes and emotional tendencies, not in finding their true self and then making progress.

The solution to the problem is attitudinal. 

Choose to make progress instead of swirling in the aftermath of unpleasant circumstances. 

Make incremental changes, one at a time. 

The person before me at the cafe had done so despite horrific betrayals and medical manipulation. I was awed at the result: A face glowing with self respect, a person making sensible choices, and a life going forward despite the bumps that tend to whack us mortals when we least expect them.

I then explained that 

shows readers how to do much of that 

with the cooperation of loved ones, 

their medical professionals, 

or all on their own.

The book holds fill-in-the-blank lines
that you and/or they can fill in together 
or individually.

I came away from the conversation happier for realizing that I'd made a choice to empower my readers. It's no simple matter to carry on with heartache, debts and illness that seem to impede many simple choices. Over time, some of those readers have contacted me to express their gratitude for the content. 

I pray that the book will help you to create some of your life's meaning.

I salute you for your determination and your focus on a better tomorrow.

Here's an insightful look at what you're accomplishing.

 


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Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.

Fill your soul with spirituality, positive growth beyond your present limitations.

Emotional Freedom from Negative Emotions!

B'SD

14 Menachem Av 5769


Today's YOUR bonus day! I do book reviews as part of my journalistic life. My blog has been chosen to go first in a collegial publicity effort for terrific author Dr. Judith Orloff and her newest book:

Title: Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life
Author: Dr. Judith Orloff
Publisher: Harmony Books
Reviewer: Yocheved Golani


Using your gut feelings to figure out life and what you should do about it is the hallmark of Dr. Orloff’s Intuitive Healing practice. The popular psychiatrist’s newest book, Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself from Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life teaches her readers how to transform their self-sabotaging tendencies in order to become free to live, to love, to forgive and to progress.

The charm of Dr. Orloff’s works is that she is not a dull writer tossing off clichés and boring bromides. She shares poignant and sometimes humorous insights into her own world of struggling with emotional issues, letting us know that she’s as human as the rest of us. In this book she describes how she tunes in to her intuitive powers so that readers can do the same (see her videos for more examples of this). Intuition lets the author, her clients and readers better grasp what distresses or de-stresses them and what they ought to do to improve the quality of their lives.

Dr. Orloff’s prose is simple to understand, clearly presented in manageable chunks of information and practice instructions. When she explains how to “Reprogram the Biology of Jealousy” on pages 309-314, readers gain high impact insight and Action Step instructions for defeating some high stakes drama. The author explains that “Jealousy and envy are endemic to high school, a Petri dish for these emotional microbes.” In a few paragraphs she demonstrates how to bolster self esteem and optimize human biology for bypassing present or long-ago sadness that can last a lifetime.

The delightful achievements that Orloff and her clientele make by using the very advice she gives to her readers bring smiles to many faces reading her books. In Emotional Freedom, she’ll have you grinning in Seven Transformational Steps that can have you facing fear and building courage, facing frustration/disappointment and building patience, facing loneliness and building connections, and more.

The paperback was released in March 2009. Buy a copy for your personal and business library. It’s that good. And be sure to visit Dr. Orloff's site.


You betcha I recommend Emotional Freedom in my newest book!

Yocheved Golani
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life

Want Emotional Freedom?

B'SD

10 Shvat 5769

Psychiatrist Dr. Judith Orloff is a superb writer whose focus on emotional health based upon increasingly accurate intuition has greatly helped many readers of her books, let alone her clients. She actually teaches the world at large how to trust and how to improve a personal sense of intuition, one reader and one client at a time.

I've just completed my favorable book review of her newest tome, Emotional Freedom, for the book review side of my writing career.

Emotional Freedom will be released to the public in March 2009.

If you'd like to explore some basic ideas that Dr. Orloff teaches, CLICK HERE to check out her "How Emotionally Free am I?" quiz.

My own book,

It's My Crisis! And I'll Cry if I Need To:

A Life Book that Helps You to

Dry Your Tears

and to Cope with a Medical Challenge

coaches readers to balance their emotions with a sense of

humor, fairness and compassion

while teaching you how to tame the

emotional, physical and paperwork monsters

that medical crises can become.

Click on I'm buying Yocheved's book today! and learn a variety of psychologically sound coping strategies. Use whatever works for you.

To your good health,

Yojeved Golani
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life