27 Shvat 5772
Want to know what to say to someone ill, sad, home-bound or bereaved? It's quite a challenge to say anything that won't increase the person's pain. But it is possible.
Ponder the "Don't TELL Me" poem on page 6 of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. Look into a mirror as you say the words and consider the times you'd have have appreciated such thoughtfulness from someone remarking on the suffering in your life.
Pages 27-31 of EMPOWER Yourself hold tips for making - and listening to - tactful, compassion-filled comments for people going through emotional turmoil.
Nothing can guarantee the response that distraught people will make to anyone's caring words and efforts. This is a volatile time of strength, shock, comfort, despair, insight and cluelessness. But at some level, everyone will know that compassion is being provided.
Delayed reactions can be very different from immediate replies. Bear with the ill, disabled or bereaved person’s inner pain. Resolve to let them have time to consider the tumultuous thoughts churning in their hearts and minds, and how to cope with all that. Considerate behavior from you can become a turning point for much good.
Pages 42-47 can enlighten you to other unpredictable pieces of life for someone ill and/or heartbroken. Those pages hold sound advice for making the best of a given situation and for preventing it from becoming worse.
There are other passages about sharing a sense of hope, comfort and optimism that can build inner strengths, including courage, in the person who needs that assistance. None of the suggestions are about giving orders such as "Snap out of it!" or "Grow up!" Emotions do not respond favorably to commands.
Let life unfold at the pace most beneficial to the who needs the boost: Gradually.
There's a very good reason that the book's full title is "It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry if I Need To: EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge." Mental health professionals recommend that you read it.
Buy the E-book or print edition today for more insight into handling delicate situations: Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.
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