Save your sanity, time & money!

You need to know how to meet your medical and/or mental health needs NOW. You're struggling to survive moment by moment. And you need your dignity.

You're rushing to appointments (the ones you remembered) and/or wondering which treatment to use. Meanwhile, your costs are rising, your needs are changing and you hardly know how to make sense of what to do first, second and later. What about the emotions boiling inside you? How can you calm down with all that's going on?

A former medical coder and medical writer, I've been in your position. I survived a life-threatening emergency with information only a person with my professional experience would know: How to find medical innovators, medical experts and charitable organizations willing to pay part or all of an applicant's specific medical costs, who has software to simplify medical appointment scheduling, a sensible list of items to pack for hospital stays, and more.

I knew that I'd pulled through because of my ability to connect with resources I needed. I knew that most patients lack that knowledge. I decided to provide it, to minimize your suffering.

I believe in empowering terrified, confused and unhappy people with dire diagnoses. I believe that patients should not suffer insults to their dignity in medical settings. I provide information that can help you to manage your problems better, maybe to end them, in the book.

Calm down. Organize your life better. You just might get your grin back.

Monday, April 9, 2012

Why Life is a Work in Progress - and What You Can Do About That


17 Nisan 5772

You just learned that you might have a medical problem. Your life might even be on the line. Or maybe you're facing some other issue that feels like the wrecking ball of your life. There are times I comfort someone deeply unhappy with the way their life is going: abusive relatives or acquaintances (they're definitely NOT friends!), choices that backfired, scary news of some sort. 

Heartache, physical pain, emotional upheaval, mental or physical workouts and expenses of different kinds can be part of the picture. They sap energy and sometimes hope. That's normal.
Are you condemning yourself for pulling back, for withdrawing from some activities and situations? Are you loading up on feel-good calories that will bloat you? Have you done something else you hate to realize? 

The good news is that you're aware of better choices you can make. 

Let's look at some of your options.

"The road to success is almost always under construction," I comment to troubled people. "Sometimes you just need time and rest to recover from the strain of it all. Then you can pick up where you left off. You might even have thought through some innovative ideas to help you along while you recovered from a sense of shock and sadness."

The nifty thing about that recovery period is that it lets you charge up your emotional and physical batteries. Ready to be exceptional, to rise above the turmoil? How about just coping with the adversity in a way that restores your self-respect? Okay, here are three terrific tips for doing just that:

1. Make a list of your inner 
negative beliefs on 
the left side of some paper

2. List your survival instincts 
in the middle column, 
pairing them with
problems you're facing

3. On the right margin, 
briefly state the positive 
and negative thoughts 
or reactions you have 
to specific problems

Discuss all that with someone who totally respects you and can provide you with insight for how to have a better future. Face your unfolding future with empowering statements of "I will..." such as "I will control my eating behaviors," "I will plan a realistic budget," "I will find out how to behave in better ways with X, Y or Z problems."

You can start crossing off the negativity notes as you make progress with your unfolding future. You're realizing your better self, now.

If you want more ideas about how to put some order in your life, read the organization tips in 

Your life is making progress. Treat yourself well for the hard work and focus  you've invested in the effort.

Enjoy the process and let me know what improves in your life! You can contact me via giveretgolani @ I look forward to hearing from you.

Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge for more self-help ideas.

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

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