How to Stop a Pedophile

B'SD

28 Shvat, 5774

Sexual molestation of children is a soul-ripping hell.

The defenseless victims are often too young or too much in shock and horror to find the words that explain what was done to them. 

Caring, compassionate adults are morally obligated to protect children from sex predators and anyone who wants to harm them. The predators can be male or female, relatives, teachers, camp counselors, youth group leaders, neighbors and anybody else. 

Those same compassionate adults are morally obligated to provide the child ith effective therapy for getting past the trauma, perhaps several sexual molestation traumas.

I began to report about innovative programs to help the victims of child molesters and programs to prevent molesters from hurting more people back in 1996, when Nefesh Israel (www.nefesh.org) launched such activities.

I attended a relevant program last week: 

Tzedek-Tzedek

"Justice Justice Shall You Pursue!"

Friday, 17 January 2014

"Who Are The People in Our Neighborhood?" - Dr David Pelcovitz - Monday 20th January

I'd like to share an E-mail exchange between me and Dr Pelcovitz. It can educate you:

"If I recall correctly Dr Pelcovitz, you explained that interviewed perverts rationalize that their young victims are too young to remember the abuse foisted on them. 

I find that lie easy to expose: Do the perverts recall when they were first, or ever, molested? Yes, they do. Those memories are intact. 

Why not confront them with their lie? If they've been confronted with the inconsistency, do they re-rationalize their behavior? What is the lesson for society, in 50 words or less?

I request that you provide your listeners with

1) Handouts describing the body language and personality characteristics of perverts

2) Please remind me of the researcher who discovered that fMRIs reveal the shutdown of language centers during sexual and other trauma. I suspect that the reality could force a change in halacha regarding victims who do not scream for help.

I'm hoping you recall that I wrote about your groundbreaking work for the Jewish - and wider - communities in The Jewish Press, back in 1996 or so, when Nefesh Israel held its kenes (YG: convention) in Baltimore. I believe the event was labeled 'Shhh... It's Not a Secret Anymore.'" 

Dr Pelcovitz quickly replied , "I couldn't agree more. We do confront them.  That is the essence of their problem and the nature of that component of therapy.- they lie to themselves and it's the job of the therapist to uncover this and challenge them. 

Handouts are a good idea for future programs. The researcher I was referring to is Dr Bessel van der Kolk."

Readers, I recommend that you see a most appropriate definition of sexual abuse by Israel's Takana organization, at http://takana.org.il/en/defining-sexual-abuse/.

The home page of Takana is http://takana.org.il/en/.

The organization helps people 

of all ages and

offers 

educational materials 

for use in schools, camps 

and youth groups. 

Ask for them.

The site is available in Hebrew at http://takana.org.il/.

Need to know how to heal from other kinds of physical, emotional, or mental health issues?

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Mourning the Victim of an Unspeakable Murder

B'SD


16 Tamuz 5771




I'm having a hard time finding topics to share with you as we mourn the unspeakably monstrous murder of Leiby Kletzky H'YD (Hebrew acronym for May his blood be Avenged). I suspect that all of us need to mourn him more. Ultimately, we'll learn life lessons from this part of life. Lessons I'd alerted the wider world to in a long-ago blogpost: Perverts Do Not Change. Demand Total Protection from Them.


Here's an overview of the search for, then burial of, the defenseless child.





Abusers do not deserve harbor.




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Have Happier Holidays: Here's How to Report Groping TSA Staff

B'SD

18 Kislev 5771

My E-book holds money-saving information about safe travel for ill people. But I never imagined that I'd need to address the safety and dignity of everyone else as I prepared the manuscript.

Anyone going through US airports faces humiliating defenselessness as strangers feel up your body parts! GOOD GAWD people we go through hoops to prevent perverts from moving into our neighborhoods or preying upon defenseless children and adults! This OUTRAGEOUS Terrorism sanctioned with government laws is beyond reason!

Americans, YOUR tax monies are paying for people to touch you in places you prefer to protect. Worse, the perverted pat-downs of TSA employees are another security problem altogether. TSA staff overlooks dangerous behaviors of terrorists while harassing law-abiding decent people.

This NY Post article is worth reading to save your dignity and to enhance your genuine security Grope-a-Dopes: Support Law to Ban Invasive Searches!

Has someone invaded your honor in the name of preventing terrorism? Register your utter disgust at http://www.reporttsaabuse.com/

PS - Send me a message about YOUR

TSA gropefest problem

and how you dealt with it.

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