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Showing posts with label holidays. Show all posts
Showing posts with label holidays. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

The Trees Teach Health

B'SD

12 Shvat, 5773

The lovely imagery of what we can learn from trees (and other plants) fills the holiday of Tu B'Shvat. It's a very pro-health message.

Trees are teachers. 

Trees affect daily life; the health of the planet and even our spiritual realities. Think back to Sunday school. Who goofed by eating the wrong food, then made things worse by pointing fingers of blame? Worse, why DID those two people WANT to eat that food?

There's an interesting answer to the question. Here it comes: Tu B'Shvat and the First Couple.

Here's a excerpt from my forthcoming Comfort Foods Cookbook, which teaches readers how to tame their inner over-eater:


THE COMFORT FOODS COOKBOOK 411: DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU! AN OVERVIEW OF BASIC PRINCIPLES

Chomp a carrot or some unsalted hot-air machine
popcorn while you read these opening lines.
That’ll take care of some of your stress and
Keep you safe from too many calories.
The book will be safe from popcorn oil stains, too.

You’re done with diets and it’s time to celebrate; you’re grounded in reality! So many diets don’t help humanity. They don’t address our rushed lives, the overwhelming advertising messages messing with our minds nor the peer pressure we must finesse as we eat differently from everyone around us.  Who the heck wants to listen to anybody telling us not to eat things that taste good - as if distasteful do-nothing diets haven’t made you feel finished with future weight loss efforts already?!

Whew, take a breath. If one diet plan worked for everybody, bookstores wouldn’t be selling so many types of diet books. The key to weight control is to find what works for you and to keep doing that. You do not have to make a sudden overwhelming change to the way you live, eat and think. You only make little changes, one at a time, to the way you deal with food.

The news gets better: this book is not about things you cannot or may not eat; it’s about making a menu that works for you! The Comfort Foods Cookbook is designed to help you past several problems, which is clear in the confidence-building Table of Contents. There are proven strategies for dining well while losing or maintaining weight. Here are a few to take you through the day:

1.   Don’t Drastically Destroy Your Meals
You still need carbohydrates. Not in excess, but in moderation. Enjoy some wholegrain breads that can help to curb your appetite. Indulge in high-nutrition wild rice, brown rice and basmati rice. They make sold underpinnings for delicious sauces and a bouquet of body-building vegetables.

2.   Love what you do in life.
If you don’t yet love your life, make it lovable. Don’t let your weight-control efforts dominate your thoughts. You risk losing the enthusiasm for minding your table manners. Indulge in hobbies you enjoy, relationships you cherish and simple pleasures. Let raindrops fall on your tongue, do happy dances and smile as much as you can. Take on each day sunshine or rain. Rest when you need to. And do something nice for yourself – including the people important to you.

Less stress will lower your snack reaction; nobody shoves food in their face when they’re content. Reduce the stress in your life in as many directions as possible. Delegate tasks, lower your demands (not everything in life needs to be perfect), and shut off the noise. That includes turning off anything digital. The toll on your heart and brain will lighten up, as will your perspective on life. You know the story of the character who fished for a living. He prayed to be this or that, and then achieved those goals. Each venture cost him dearly in terms of peace of mind and financial security. So he prayed to have a stress-free livelihood and VOILA! He became a fisherman again and never lost his perpetual smile of relief.

Need a different motivational thought to keep your control? I hear you. Some of us mortals use food as an escape, a safe haven from some sort of pressure (Deadlines, in-laws, outlaws, bills, budgets, name it). Let’s look at life philosophically, and a bit spiritually too, a moment. We are descendants of the first man and woman. Want to correct the mistake of how and why the first couple ate the forbidden fruit? Adam and Chava (Eve) used food to escape GOD's sovereignty. Food is not an escape. Food is for nourishment so we can live with optimal health, happiness and to serve GOD with decency. Food brings us pleasure and health. That leads to happiness. Clarity about what food is for equals a measure of emotional freedom.


Decide what sort of person you want to be and make yourself behave that way (Do-overs are allowed. Some days you can simply chalk up mistakes to dress rehearsals). Run your own life, you slimming and trimming CEO! Eating is supposed to make you feel happy. This book does its best to get you grinning again, looking slimmer and trimmer. Seeing yourself smiling back from the mirror can make your day. Give yourself a thumbs-up with a meaningful wink each time you head out the door.

When you’re indoors, and even outside, nourish your soul. Listen to soothing music, wear and decorate in colors that make you feel well. Feel that smile coming into your face? Make the most of it. Dab some lavender oil under your nose or on your pillows. It’s a calming scent. Guys, use some peppermint if you can, or your fave aftershave lotions and potions. Feeling calm makes the munchies seem like distant memories.

Walks can do wonders for calming shattered nerves. Watch the world go by as you take interesting detours and refreshing hikes. Use the bicycle instead of the car to run errands. Your improving muscle tone will speed up weight control efforts. Admiring glances or compliments will do wonders for you. So will boosts in your sagging self-esteem.

If you can, invest in an indoor water fountain or easily maintained aquarium. Watery images and sounds soothe savage minds. Tea lites in every corner of the tub make for one very soothing soak. Draw the curtain and bask in the warmth as your cares ooze out of your pores.

3) Put some spirituality into your mealtimes. Make this a new mantra: We don’t live to eat, we eat to live!  Keep your priorities straight, not muddled in your mind. Focus on feeling grateful for having body-building foods before you. Say a prayer of thanks to The One Above that you have such food, and that you are wise enough to make smart choices. Consider how much happier you’ll be for strengthening your health, not actively ruining it with poor choices.  Consider how excited you’ll be to watch the pounds melt away and never return.

And when those really awful, messed up days come your way (ALL of us have them), remember to care compassionately for yourself. You’re going to be tempted to shove food down your throat and punish yourself with the consequences all around your too-tight clothes. Is self-discipline important to you? Is better health a priority? Is a slimmer you important? Remember this saying that applies to much of our stressful lives: “Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.”

Fill the comments box with your thoughts  about that. 

Pretty please? 



Buy E-book or print edition EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge to put your medical and emotional health priorities in order, today. 

The Comfort Foods Cookbook will go on sale at a future date, GOD willing.

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.


Feed your soul and body nutritiously.

 

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Life-Sustaining Advice

B'SD

23 Kislev, 5773

It's been a busy week for me. I've been interacting with the family of a four-year old undergoing another round of chemotherapy. 

The mother of a young man blinded in an accident has spoken with me at length about the medical professionals and medical treatments I've suggested to them. 

One of my role models is battling kidney cancer. 

The list of heartaches goes on.

All of the emotion invested in that has been taking a toll on me.

I took my own advice and indulged in some humor with friends. I also walked out into some sunshine, rejoiced in the fresh, clean air, pretty sky, and appreciated all the beauty and bounty available to mere mortals for free:



  • Air
  • Scenery
  • Friends to chat with as I stroll about or almost any time.
  • The ability to decide what mood I'm in and which mood I'll work on.
  • Counting various blessings in my life (so many I can't count that high!)

Think of this health-promoting thought when you're feeling down, "The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live." Norman Cousins coined that phrase. It means that we owe it to ourselves to replenish our emotional and spiritual batteries as necessary. Your sense of delight and joy in life does not need to wither. Nurture it with all your might.

Do what you can to refresh your spirits and someone else's when medical, mental health or disability diagnoses get you down. If you need more ideas about how to do that, or how to deal with critics who condemn your negative emotions when they arise, share this idea with the people before you:

"A medical crisis - you'd cry too, if it happened to you." That's what I responded when someone told me years ago that I had no right to cry from learning of a long gone and formerly fatal brain tumor. 

Use your tissues and handkerchiefs with my blessings borne of experience. GOD gives you Permission to Weep. And you can say that to any critics after explaining that "It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry if I Need To." Your license to cry appears on pages 4 and 5.

Stories to make you laugh out loud appear in subsequent chapters.


Get your grin back despite what's going on. Buy the E-book or print edition today for a brighter look at life and the holiday season: Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism.


Friday, March 11, 2011

Giggling at Reversal of Fortunes, Tragedies and More!




B'SD

5 Adar 2, 5771

Purim happens March 20-21! Jews around the world are in the mood for blessings of happiness & fun to benefit everyone.

Enjoy this "take" on all-inclusive blessings. Purim is a holiday about The One Above saving us from the machinations of evil people.




Learn more about Purim
here.


Hear some of the Hebrew vocabulary for Purim at http://www.jr.co.il/videos/purim-videos.htm




Laughter is good for your health. Get some more Good-4-U Giggles when you read E-book
EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Here's How to Help Autistic Kids to Understand Emotions!

B'SD

1 Tevet 5771

BIG happy news this holiday season (it's about time, huh?)!



Two Oregon teens created a computer program to help Autistic Kids to identify emotions in spoken language. Read the scoop at
Teens Win $100,000 For Creating Software To Help Kids With Autism .


Enjoy your holiday meals more, now that everyone in the family can better appreciate the interaction :^ D

Here's a GREAT holiday gift for anyone with a medical issue to solve: It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry If I Need To: EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.

To your happier holidays,



The Resource Center for Resolving Medical Problems is quick and convenient E-book EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. Buy it today at
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Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Save Money on Medical Costs with a Book Clergy Recommend! Here's How...




B'SD

28 Kislev 5771


Kwanzaa and Christmas are coming and you know what means!


BILL$$$$$$$!!!!

Here's how to reduce your costs, especially with
medical expenses.



offers advice on how to calm down, how to recover your sense of humor and how to

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And I'll Cry If I Need To:
EMPOWER Yourself to
Cope with a Medical Challenge
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One more thought: the holiday season is about Spiritual matters most of all. Guess why clergy of different faiths so enjoy EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge and recommend it widely? They find it INSPIRATIONAL.

You can, too :^ D


Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.


Monday, November 23, 2009

A User-Friendly How-to Book that Improves Your Health and Coping Skills!


B'SD

6 Kislev 5770



Why would you want to buy this E- book for yourself or someone else at holiday season?

It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry If I Need To: EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge teaches readers how to rev up their energy and happiness levels on multiple levels! And WOW is it ever User Friendly;^ )

Check out some of the ideas presented in the manuscript:

One: eat nutrition-dense and age-reversing organic foods that repair cellular damage.

Two: Spend all the time you need with books, music and other media that strengthen your emotions and worldview.

Three: Count your blessings and list them on paper if that serves your emotional strengthening needs.

Four: Get into an exercise regime you can live with and enjoy (I do not advocate making yourself believe you must be a slave to the exercise gods. Working out needs to be fun so you have good short-term and long-term reasons to stick with it.).

Want to sample the text? Click the flapping pages and take the book for a test drive:



To Your ever-improving health and coping skills,

Yocheved Golani
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life

Friday, September 25, 2009

3 Steps to Alleviating Emotional Pain




B'SD


7 Tishrei 5770





Readers, I'm aware of some very sad people facing extremely difficult times and situations. The Jewish High Holiday and pending Winter Holiday seasons seem to highlight the conflict with expectations for feeling happiness versus facing gut-punching adversity.

Read on to alleviate your emotional pain in 3 steps, with a reprint of an essay I did at a long-ago blog (the URL is now inactive): Name the Feeling, Converse about it and ZIP Your Lips. This is only a starting point to a more pleasant outcome:


Some of my blog and book readers plus my Self-Help Coaching clients ask me for a quick explanation of my coping mechanisms. I can answer academically, but the true, better answer comes with your personal experience at coping. A person growing in coping competence needs to know, in their gut, what it feels like to fail to cope and what it feels like to succeed at coping. And they need to admit those feelings to themselves and to critically important others in their life.

Name your feeling (including the ugly, embarrassing ones) or the feeling of the distressed person speaking with you. That makes it more “real.” Now you can deal with it.

Converse about the feeling(s) with the caring person(s) involved in your life. Seek sensible strategies for managing the situation before you and/or the emotions popping up with that situation. Your increasing Self-Awareness can clue you in to your gut reactions (your completely honest initial response to anything at all). Go with your gut! If the decision you’ve made feels right, your tummy will feel calm and spread calmness throughout your body. If the decision is NOT good for you, you’ll feel the trouble. Cancel THAT decision!

When you’re dialoguing about conflicting, mysterious emotions, don’t insult yourself or anyone else by remarking “That’s not true!” or “No, you don’t know what you’re talking about (see my book’s opening remarks for a superb example about that problem).” It’s a brutal response and the victim of the insult will probably stop sharing honest thoughts with you, lie to you, and suffer more because the conversation died at birth. React with Respect (genuine respect). That keeps the dialogue going (plus the relationship!) and the solution soon to follow.

Zip your lips. The human brain needs an editor. Not all thoughts deserve to be said aloud. Plan your remarks. Learn to be silent as you consider your next sentence. See above paragraph ;^ )

Your relationships will improve and sweeten as everyone around you learns that you embrace them with honesty and acceptance. Some folks will need more time than others to become comfortable with the new you. Give them the time they need.

Emotional Competencies (Daniel Goleman model)
Self Awareness: Being able to read your own emotions and to let your gut reactions guide your decision making.

Self Management: controlling your impulses no matter the problem before you
Social Awareness: reacting to other people's emotions with respect (and NOT telling them that their thoughts or feelings are irrelevant) so that they grow in self-respect, and benefiting from social networks
Relationship Management


(Learn more about Emotional Intelligence HERE)


Want to feel even stronger? Mental health therapists recommend EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.

Yocheved Golani
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life

Thursday, April 2, 2009

5 Steps for Coping with Medical Crises!

B'SD


8 Nissan 5769



Secretaries from a medical office called me the other day. They keep a copy or two of my book in the waiting room. They happily reported that patients are in love with my book, which they read while waiting for the doctor to tend to them. "One lady said your book is helping her to survive the whole mess!" I heard.

The secretaries are letting patients saddened with their medical problems know that they can order my book online or order it from stores.


What about
seriously ill people
who are upset with
the soft spring season
that so mismatches
their unhappy emotions?



The Pesach/Passover holiday arrives next week. Other holidays abound around the world. And each one is hard to enjoy, if at all, when you or a loved one is facing a medical crisis.

You have a problem. My book can help to solve much of it.

Keep reading to learn about how to simplify the struggle into some manageable chunks ;^ )



How to Cope with Medical Crises
Five Steps for
Simplifying the Medical Care Monster


Reduce your stress. Simplify how you'll deal with your medical diagnosis and all the hard work it involves. Break what seems to be an overwhelming project into small, manageable tasks.


You're in shock.
Tears are flowing.
Tempers are flaring over
a medical diagnosis
about someone
important to you.

There's lots of work to do
and hardly any time for doing it!

Let's reduce your stress by
taming the medical monster
as much as possible.

Break this project into
5 manageable tasks.
Do each task one by one.

1. Buy a large dayplanner with: spaces for listing appointments; spaces for making daily and monthly notes; a plastic business card holder for inserting biz cards from each doctor, social worker and therapist you need; and a phone directory in which you can list friends to call for transportation to appointments, childcare help, a bit of reassurance from a friendly voice and anything else you care to add.

2. Each time you make an appointment with a doctor or therapist, immediately mark it down on the appropriate date in that dayplanner. Include that person's complete contact information: phone, cellphone and fax numbers, E-mail address and physical address.

If you're supposed to send them relevant information or bring it with you, jot down details in the same area where you noted the appointment. If you need more space, fill in the "Notes" area.

Then label a large manila or clear plastic folder with the words: For (Medical Professional's Name). Fill it with the requested information as you locate it: CDs, X-rays, medical reports, blood test results, whatever you've been asked for.

If you have questions for the professionals you're working with, list them in a separate notebook. Keep that notebook with your dayplanner at all times, especially when you're heading to the appointment(s). That way you'll read your remarks and remember what to ask instead of thinking "I forgot what to say!" before the appointment ends.

Ask for the medical professional's business card at each appointment. Place it in the plastic biz card holder of your dayplanner. Do your best to keep the cards in alphabetical order.

3. Make a list of helpful neighbors, friends and relatives on a blank sheet of lined paper. Create headings a few lines apart: Meals, Household Help, Kid Care, Shoulders to Cry On, and Transportation. Under each heading, list the names of the people who've agreed to do that task, plus their phone and cellphone numbers and E-mail address, Post that paper where you can easily see it: on a bulletin board, on the refrigerator, atop your night table in the bedroom, or on a desk.

As you fill up the page you'll notice the blank spots of jobs that still need doing. Ask someone you trust to help you to find out who can do that job for you while you focus on healing and coping with your emotions.

4. Take a time out every now and then to focus on what's going right! Breathe sighs of relief that the job list is filling in, that stuff is getting done, and that you're arriving to medical appointments as scheduled. Listen to music you enjoy, watch a video that fills you with happiness, and say something pleasant to each helpful person as they interact with you. Ask for back rubs, foot rubs, a massage or something desirable that people around you can easily provide.

5. Remember that this 5-Step Plan is an excerpt from my book. Click on
Buy Yocheved's Book. Learn about to How to Cope with Medical Crisis Even More.

PS - Halachically observant Jews can find Passover intimidating due to the unusual situation regarding medications at the holiday season. Here's a helpful site (in Hebrew) with comprehensive information regarding the kashrut (kosher status) of medication on Pesach (and throughout the year): http://www.kosherpharm.co.il/


To your ever-improving coping skills,

Yocheved Golani
Coping with a Medical Crisis?
Make the Changes You Need in Your Life