Monday, November 23, 2015

How to Go Forward Despite Intense Grief

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11 Kislev, 5776

I have lacked the energy or inspiration to share blogposts with you in recent days.

I am intermittently crying and pursuing daily activities as I mourn people whose murders might or might not have made your local headlines since September.

These are only some of the victims. Their families, friends, teachers and other acquaintances are victims, too.

So are you, to some extent.

You have lost what they might have contributed to the wider world. Their murderers in France, Israel, Kenya, Mali, and elsewhere made sure of that.

Ezra Schwartz laid to rest

Funeral of Ezra Yehiel Schwartz, yeshiva student who was murdered by a terrorist Thursday in Gush Etzion, began Sunday morning, Boston time.

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By Arutz Sheva staff

First Publish: 11/22/2015, 7:19 PM

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The funeral of Ezra Yehiel Schwartz, yeshiva student who was murdered by a terrorist Thursday in Gush Etzion, began Sunday morning, Boston time. Schwartz, 18, is a US citizen and a student at the Ashreinu Yeshiva in Beit Shemesh. He was in Israel on his own.

Michael Freund

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This 21-year old Israeli, Hadar Buchris, was murdered today by a Palestinian terrorist who brutally stabbed her to death. Hadar was on her way to study at a religious seminary. Her only offense was being a Jew. May her memory be for a blessing for her family and the entire Jewish people.

Paula R. Stern shared ‎חדשות כיכר השבת‎'s photo.

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Look these people in the face...think of the parents, siblings, children left orphaned and then tell me that those who murdered them in cold blood were not savages...savages who were taught to hate and kill and believe death offered them salvation. These people were killed for one reason...and where they live or who holds security control over Hebron has nothing to do with it.

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Bereaved bride invites world to celebrate her wedding

Defying the terrorists that murdered her father and brother, Sara-Techiya Litman has issued an open invitation to her Jerusalem wedding.

November 17, 2015, 9:14 am

Sara Techiya Litman’s father and brother were murdered by terrorists shortly before her wedding. She and her husband-to-be Ariel have decided not only to go ahead with the wedding, but to invite everyone to join them.| The Jewish Standard http://jewishstandard.timesofisrael.com/bereaved-bride-invites-world-to-celebrate-her-wedding/#ixzz3sHuj7Ad2

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