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Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Hey Teach, Check this Out! Schools Need Decency, Discipline and... Good Sense with Disabled Students!


1 Elul 5771

The new school year is beginning and that means LOTS of scared students in every age group!

The problem is more painful for students with disabilites. They must face the gaffes, rudeness and utter lack of insight in teaching staff and the student body. Learning school subjects is hard enough with being harassed, misunderstood and gosh, just name the unnecessary, undeserved and completely inappropriate complication!

So, I'm preparing a 2-part blogpost for helping people to AVOID making misguided statements and taking inappropriate actions that disabled students of every age face in school settings at the start of - and all through - the school year. 
I pray that my efforts will
minimize the problems.

Part 1 is entitled "10 Ways to Embarrass Disabled/Ill Kids at School" and Part 2 is entitled "10 BEST Ways to Interact with Disabled/Ill Kids at School."

I welcome your input. Please share insights with me about tips to share (I have some ready to be posted). I will not use your names if you request anonymity. Send your comments to

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Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Readers Are Catching Up with Me and VV!!!


30 Av 5771


WOW I apologize for not updating the blog a bit more. It's been a hectic week.

The slice-of-life news is that an abandoned 2-month old pup found its way to my door a few days ago. I needed time to care for the hungry and tired out creature, then helped it to find a safe, pleasant home with kids who adore the unusually well-behaved animal.

I'm busy writing for a new client who tosses me interesting assignments over time. And...

I've been invited to speak at a women's retreat in September. A scenic location in northern Israel is where I'll help my audience to address the funnier and can-do parts of coping with illness from an emotional, spiritual and physical perspective.

You can get a preview of what I'll be speaking about when you read

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One appreciative reader is taking me to lunch tomorrow. I expect an interesting conversation.

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Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Dressing Despite that Disability


23 Av 5771

I've been participating in a LinkedIn conversation concerning Disabilities.

One of the commenters mentioned how hard it is to dress herself. Here's my response to the problems she encounters daily:

"... try a front-hook bra. It's great for women with limited range of motion. Racer-back bras with front closures are even better. No droopy straps you can't pick up or hesitate to lift in front of onlookers. Most bra companies make them and One Hanes Place paper or online catalogs offer great bargains on underwear of all kinds at times.

Ask your local pharmacist or shoe seller for stik-on heel pads that provide friction and pull to secure feet inside shoes.

Look for online and paper catalogues that provide clothing you need. I survived severe allergies with products from Janice's site.

As for the shorts, try Lands' End. They tend to make items that fit modestly, not skimpily."

Okay, men, let's hear some get-dressed despite disability ideas from you. I can share them on this blog.

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Monday, August 22, 2011

Here's What to do BEFORE Social Security Disability Fund Goes Broke


22 Av 5771

America's downward spiral is progressing though some observers opine that it will make a financial recovery. I strongly disagree. The financial and social fabric destruction is too far gone. Social Security Disability and the rest of the Social Security system will go broke over financial mismanagement in many corridors. Daydreams are for the unrealistic.

YOU are a realist. You need fund$ and compassionate people willing to help you to cope with physical limitations and expensive medical needs.

The good news is that MANY of those funds and compassionate people are listed in the Global Resources section of

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Wednesday, August 17, 2011

The POSITIVE Side of Grief


18 Av 5771

Here's a heartwarming article about the UP side of living with and through difficult times: Studying the positive side of trauma and grief

I agree with the findings that being an optimist and someone who faces their difficult realites can help, but not all of us are born optimists. It comes with reflection on events, personal goals and making firm new decisions.

Yep, reflection. Think about it.

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Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Color Your Hair SAFELY!


16 Av 5771

One of the results of illness is that your body shows the signs of wear and tear. No joke, hair can go gray, even white, from significant medical stress. Chemo patients often find that it grows back in a different texture or color than they had before treatment.

If you're determined to spruce up your hair color, skip the chemical complications from pre-packaged commerical products. Go organic. Burnt walnut kernels color hair black; tagetes will rinse your hair yellow, and henna will color it reddish brown.

If your hair is more than 30% white, those items might not be strong enough to color your entire head. In that case, try several month's worth of herbal remedy Ho Shu Wu aka polygoni multiflore (it takes months for your body to heal with it and then to show the results in colorful hair). You'll need to swallow a teasponn of it 3 times daily, about every 8 hours.

I recommend buying Ho Shu Wu aka polygoni multiflore  from a reputable naturopath/organic foods counselor or health foods shop. Why? Too many people are willing to fleece you over your desire to look different than you do now. Spend your cash wisely.

When you're ready to feel better inside and out, read EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge.

You can even curl a strand of hair in your fingers while you do ;^ D

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Monday, August 15, 2011

Triumph Over a Tumor


15 Av 5771

You're invited to read a brief account of how I recovered from a life-threatening situation at

Yocheved Golani - Triumph Over Tumor

The medical miracles in my life are worthy of headline updates. Read the book I wrote to learn how YOU
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Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Happiness-Producing Questions


10 Av 5771

Well, we're past the 9th of Av and you've read headlines, caugh up on family and friend stuff, now it's time to breathe, relax and relent.

My thanks to Shmuel Greenbaum and his “Kind Words” listserv. Today’s topic is Happiness-Producing Questions from Zelig Pliskin (one of the happiest people I know!) from an earlier edition of the newsletter.

Kind Words - Happiness-Producing Questions

Wednesday, August 3, 2011


Directions to Live By
The author wishes to remain anonymous
Edited by Shmuel Greenbaum
Printed with Permission of Partners in Kindness

I was standing on the street trying to figure out which direction was the one that would get me where I wanted to go. A stranger walked by and I asked her directions.

What could a stranger possibly say to me within the span of seconds that could make me smile weeks later?

After telling me where to go, she apologized for not coming by sooner so I wouldn't have had to wait for her to come by.

Happiness-Producing Questions
From Kindness: Making a Difference in People's Lives:
Formulas, stories, and insights
By Zelig Pliskin
Printed with Permission of Shaar Press

When you ask people questions, you get them to focus on specific pieces of information and memories. It's an act of kindness to ask the type of questions that give people pleasure and increase their level of happiness.

Here are some questions that you can use as tools to help people access positive states:

* What gives you the most happiness in your life?

* What were your greatest moments?

* What are your favorite childhood memories?

* What are some of the nicest things that people have said to you?

* What was your best vacation?

* What makes you smile?

* What makes you laugh?

* Who makes you feel good just by being in that person's presence?

* What do you enjoy reading?

* What songs put you in positive states?

* What is your favorite possession?

* What is your favorite day of the year?

* When have you unexpectedly had a better time than you thought you would?

* When have you been pleasantly surprised by the way something you did turned out?

* When did you feel you would succeed and you actually did?

* When have you felt joy about seeing someone you hadn't seen in a long time?

* What praises and positive feedback have you appreciated?

* What is the nicest thing a teacher ever told you?

* When did you surprise yourself by being more skillful at something than you thought you could?

* How do you look when you smile at yourself in a mirror?

* When has someone given you a gift that you greatly appreciated?

* What do you consider your wisest decision?

* What advice do you have for others to increase their happiness?

* What did you do for someone else that you felt great about?

* What is the nicest thing a total stranger ever did for you?

* What have you been grateful for in the past?

* What are you grateful for in the present?

* When have you felt joyous for no special reason?

* What healthy activities give you a natural high?

* When were you about to give up and someone's encouragement kept you motivated?

* (For grandparents): What is a clever thing one of your grandchildren said?

* What is your favorite question that anyone ever asked you?

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Monday, August 8, 2011

Tisha B'Av Tutorial


8 Av 5771

Tonight the Jewish people will observe one of the saddest days of the Jewish calendar: the 9th (Tisha) of Av (B'Av). Here's a quick tutorial on what it's about.

If you find going without food for a day problematic to your health, speak to an Orthodox rabbi before Tisha B'Av begins. Judaism does NOT advocate ruining your health/self over religious observances.

On an even happier note, Tisha Bav happens on a Tuesday this year. Tuesday is the day Hashem/GOD referenced creation of the world as "ki tov" (it is good) twice. Tuesday is a manifestation of the sefirah of Tiferet (the kabbalistic emanation of beauty and glory into the universe) and thus Tuesday is a day inclined to success and good fortune! (per R. Adin Steinsalz).

May we earn the merit to be blessed by GOD/HaShem with the end of suffering. Be as decent, compassionate and honest as possible. Turn Tisha B'av turn into a Yom Tov (happy holiday)!

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Sunday, August 7, 2011

Another Medical Professional Praises EMPOWER Yourself!


7 Av 5771

I found this book review at the Barnes & Nobel bookselling site:

Yocheved Golani has written a comprehensive manual for the ill and those helping the person experiencing a medical crisis. Her approach is compassioante and filled with messages of hope and universal faith.

I found the book to be pro-active, not reactive. In Ms. Golani’s encouragement to use positive language, she enables a reader to look at their circumstance as a point of growth. She has productive exercises for the reader, using one’s own words to approach a medical crisis (or chronic illness) is going to last much longer than the “you should” messages so many ill people face.

The list of resources is a valuable commodity! Whew, everyone experiencing illness should have access to this comprehensive list- it’s action oriented, for sure. Ultimately, the most endearing and enduring message one can receive from this book is: Medical crisises may happen, but who you are, how you manage- it’s in your hands. Pick up this book and be your own best advocate!

Dr Shoshana Kesner, DHM, BSN

Founder & CEO Binah Baby

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Wednesday, August 3, 2011

How to Travel with a Disabilitiy - and Have FUN!


3 Av 5771

Traveling with a disability as part of your baggage is a challenge. Daily life's already tough. Traveling can complicate matters.

The good news is that there's a nifty resource for disabled travelers in

Read all about it on page 98,  in the middle of the Global Resources section (it's filled with info on organizations that will pay your medical care, medication, medical appliance and medical travel costs, and more!).

MORE good news! I just learned of the Accessible World initiative for matching needs to the facilities in a given location. The starting point is to submit an Access Profile, which is a personal definition of your needs. See and let me know how it helps you.

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Tuesday, August 2, 2011

A Fun Way to Boost Your Brain Power!


2 Tamuz 5771

Here's some nfty news: Learning to Juggle Can Improve Your Brain Power!

As the article indicates, learning any new task is good for your brain. Learn a language (even some of it, such as counting), a game, a hobby. The point is to have fun and to exercise your thinking power.

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Monday, August 1, 2011

How to Go on a Fast Safely


1 Av 5771

The Jewish calendar is in a somber state. Nine days to go until Tisha B'AV, the 9th day of the month called Av. We've already been in the midst of a mourning period known as The Three Weeks.

Tisha B'AV, the 9th day of the month called Av, is a day of fasting: no drinks or food unless you're quite ill/weak (check with your doctor to learn if the fast should be  minimized or avoided for your optimal health. Your local Orthodox rabbi can advise you what to do in such a case). Here's something you can do, starting today, to reduce your discomfort during the fast:

Stop eating/drinking things with sugar (pastas, candies, snax) and caffeine (coffees, sodas) - at minimum ingest less of the stuff each day until the fast. It's the sudden withdrawal from sugar and caffeine that can unhinge your hopes to get through the fast without headaches and feeling "ill."

Here's how to get through the high heat/humidity in the
meanwhile: Cool off and reenergize with chilled unsweetened organic teas (or, sweetened with a bit of agave syrup if you must have sweet flavoring), pure juices without additives, filtered water, cold fruit, peaches or other fruit pureed in a blender then chilled for fantastic refreshment, and cold soups (read some recipe books).

Avoid nausea after the fast by first drinking simple beverages, then eating s-l-o-w-ly.

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