Why Life is a Work in Progress - and What You Can Do About That

B'SD


17 Nisan 5772


You just learned that you might have a medical problem. Your life might even be on the line. Or maybe you're facing some other issue that feels like the wrecking ball of your life. There are times I comfort someone deeply unhappy with the way their life is going: abusive relatives or acquaintances (they're definitely NOT friends!), choices that backfired, scary news of some sort. 

Heartache, physical pain, emotional upheaval, mental or physical workouts and expenses of different kinds can be part of the picture. They sap energy and sometimes hope. That's normal.
Are you condemning yourself for pulling back, for withdrawing from some activities and situations? Are you loading up on feel-good calories that will bloat you? Have you done something else you hate to realize? 

The good news is that you're aware of better choices you can make. 

Let's look at some of your options.

"The road to success is almost always under construction," I comment to troubled people. "Sometimes you just need time and rest to recover from the strain of it all. Then you can pick up where you left off. You might even have thought through some innovative ideas to help you along while you recovered from a sense of shock and sadness."

The nifty thing about that recovery period is that it lets you charge up your emotional and physical batteries. Ready to be exceptional, to rise above the turmoil? How about just coping with the adversity in a way that restores your self-respect? Okay, here are three terrific tips for doing just that:

1. Make a list of your inner 

negative beliefs on 

the left side of some paper

2. List your survival instincts 

in the middle column, 

pairing them with

problems you're facing

3. On the right margin, 

briefly state the positive 

and negative thoughts 

or reactions you have 

to specific problems

Discuss all that with someone who totally respects you and can provide you with insight for how to have a better future. Face your unfolding future with empowering statements of "I will..." such as "I will control my eating behaviors," "I will plan a realistic budget," "I will find out how to behave in better ways with X, Y or Z problems."

You can start crossing off the negativity notes as you make progress with your unfolding future. You're realizing your better self, now.

If you want more ideas about how to put some order in your life, read the organization tips in 

Your life is making progress. Treat yourself well for the hard work and focus  you've invested in the effort.


Enjoy the process and let me know what improves in your life! You can contact me via giveretgolani @ gmail.com. I look forward to hearing from you.




Buy the E-book or print edition of EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge for more self-help ideas.

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

Here's the Help YOU Need for Keeping those New Year's Resolutions!

B'SD


9 Tevet 5772


My dayplanner and I have been quite busy lately: not one but two highly productive business meetings yesterday; a successful catch-up the day before - on work I'd fallen behind on; participation in several peace-promoting efforts in the previous weeks (one on radio); and some socializing in between it all. I'm still catching my breath.


I'm gearing up for my resumed speaking tour. Watch for relevant announcements right here.


Now, back to you: How are you doing with those New Year's Resolutions? Same old same old, huh? Well,

has a cure for that. 

Here are motivational excerpts from the book:

"Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great ones make you feel that you too, can become great." – Mark Twain, beloved American author

“Habit is habit, and not to be flung out the window but coaxed downstairs one step at a time.” – Mark Twain

Here's my Five-Step Plan to Organization: Some simple suggestions for keeping your papers and yourself organized...

Read the rest of those helpful ideas and strategies in the Organization chapter of E-book or print edition EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge today. Buy it at http://booklocker.com/books/3067.html





Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.