Hug Time!

B'SD

Adar 4, 5773

Today's Valentine's Day around the world, though it's not celebrated by Torah-minded Jews. No matter your religion, that doesn't stop some people from feeling wistful about wanting to love someone else, to  be loved or to love yourself on a deep, spiritual level.

The whole concept of love is multifaceted. Wanna take some of the mystery out of it?

Rabbi Noah Weinberg z'l defines love as "The pleasure we experience when we identify someone with their virtues, while accepting them with their faults." (OK, singles and everyone else, heed the life-lesson and end some self-inflicted misery).

Worried that you're at odds with 

someone you're trying to love 

despite hardships between you?

Laugh. The experience can promote a sense of joy that turns the sense of terror and concern in our hearts and minds into harmless stuff. Your fears can melt away with the sense of restored happiness. You can even learn to laugh at them.

Go out and find something to enjoy. Listen to silly comic routines (try The 2000-year Old Man for starters), rejoice over someone's victories (babies have them each time they reach milestones), and coax yourself to be willing to loosen up a bit.

Competent therapists can help you if necessary.

OH - if you need to de-clutter, here are some handy hints to help you: 12 Myths about Cleaning a Mess.

Need to help someone (maybe yourself) to make peace and love with an illness or disability of some sort?  Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge and buy it today.  THAT's a thoughtful gift any time of year!  

Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity. Face Your Future with Optimism. 

Learn how to love challenges in life. They make YOU a more valuable person for facing them with increasing courage, humor and good sense. Feel the self-respect grow! It's a emotional hug to reassure you.

 

How YOUR Heart Affects Your Health

B'SD

21 Shvat 5772

I've been having unpredictable successes and misses with YouTube today. I want to share a video with you. Please click on Mysteries of the Heart.


Fascinating, huh? Want to learn more about teaching your heart to work with and for you, not against you?

Read a book that 

medical and mental health professionals endorse, 

along with clergy of various faiths.

Buy an E-book or print edition today for a brighter, easier, healthier and more loving future. Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge. 


Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

How to Love and How to Protect Yourself from Someone Who Can't

B'SD

10 Tevet 5772

Today is a sad anniversary on the Jewish calendar: On the 10th of Tevet, the prophet Ezekiel was instructed to record in the Book of Vision this very day as a remembrance for the weak and disgraced Jewish people. This is the day when Nebuchadnezzar's siege of Jerusalem began. It resulted in the destruction of the holy Temple (where all nationalities prayed) and the Babylonian exile.


How can history be so filled with stories of hatred and suffering? The answer is more than this blog's purposes can handle. However, love is natural. Babies enter the world ready to love. They learn whom not to love later in life. Some folks never do, and they pay a heavy price for their long learning curve.


Here's what I suggest: Have special regard for people who refuse to love. That usually indicates emotional trauma in their histories. They need help to recover from it. I recommend EFT, EMDR, talk therapy and/or friends. If those methods don't work, step back. You're involved with someone too troubled to cope.


A medical or emotional crisis - you'd cry too, if it happened to you. Use your tissues and handkerchiefs with my blessings borne of experience. GOD gives you Permission to Weep; EMPOWER Yourself explains how and why on page 5. You can share the information with any critics after explaining that "It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry if I Need To."




Buy the E-book or print edition today for a brighter day and life: Click on the words EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical (or Emotional) Challenge. 


Face Your Medical Problems with Dignity.
Face Your Future with Optimism.

What Color is Your Attitude?

B'SD

30 Tishrei 5769

We're heading into the months of c-c-cold weather, and some genius thought of warming us up with thoughts of love at WOMEN IN RED. I'm drawing your attention to the article because it has a sidebar about altruism and how it's good for your health (quite a divergent thought!).

That look at altruism points out a reality (can so many scientists AND WOMEN be wrong?) repeated throughout my book: "... in humans, research has shown that doing good makes you feel good ..."

Men, you can find loving partners with good-hearted women. Why? Ladies (MEN, listen up, now), like to marry guys who give of themselves in order to better the world.

Maybe we better revisit these thoughts in February, when the Western world celebrates the 14th of the month with loving thoughts. Meanwhile, check out FIND LOVE BY BEING NICE (sorry FoxNews, I just had to edit your title a bit). It could make you feel better ;^ )

Gee, maybe I should have worn a red outfit in my photo at the upper right. Naaah, you can see me in red or pink when you click on Boo-Boo Barbie . Remember when I laughed my way out of the pain from my elbow fracture?

Keep voting for my book at the Musella Foundation Recommended Reading site. I hope you choose a 9 or a 10.

To your good health,

Yocheved Golani
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