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Monday, September 3, 2018

Irony can be Fun!

B'SD

23 Elul, 5778

One of the ways that I ask people to take their disrupted lives back is to pursue rewarding activities. Do things that leave you smiling a long time later, no matter the medical problem.

I do that by indulging in a sewing and craft hobby I'd had years ago. I recently picked up my tools and started it anew.



I'm enjoying the irony of making lovely hand-sewn evening bags with a friend. And to laugh with even more joy from the "I'm doing this despite my vision deficit" effort, we call the line of products BagLaydeez Productions. The irony is delicious fun. Women buy the bags almost as soon as I show off the latest creation.



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Monday, June 4, 2018

Putting Your Broken Pieces Back Together Again, to Create Beauty

B'SD

21 Sivan, 5778


Some days we simply need to stop whatever we're doing, and reflect on our goals. Are we meeting them? Are they worthwhile? Are there valid reasons for changing our focus and direction?

We also need to value experiences, including failure. Failure is a time of learning, of finding out what we misunderstood, why, and how to look at things more productively.

Wounds hurt. They can also help.

Read on to understand why I'm sharing those thoughts with you. It's possible to put your broken pieces (be they a sense of self respect, a sense of security, a sense of confidence, a sense of trust, etc.) together again, and to end up with a handsome result.



Build A Better Child
We should find beauty in our brokenness 
By Boyd Matheson




image: http://www.jewishworldreview.com/images/kintsugi.jpg?ref=relatedBox
We should find beauty in our brokenness
 Kintsugi is the ancient Japanese art of repairing fractured pottery by using a form of resin mixed with powdered gold.

Read more at http://jewishworldreview.com/0618/beauty_in_brokeness.php3#86etyIL7UZiEkGQP.99
Courageous vulnerability may be one of the most important attributes for parents and their children to develop in the modern age...




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Monday, February 19, 2018

Happiness Heals Inside, and that Helps the Outside!

B'SD

4 Adar, 5778


Here I am, pondering an important thought:

 "Adar is the month of joy."


Israelis celebrate the fun, festive holiday of Purim for the two weeks leading to the celebration. Here's some silliness that all of us can share, and feel better for enjoying the presentation:




Now I want to remind you of a life lesson that can promote inner and outer healing.








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Wednesday, November 22, 2017

How to Gain Mental/Emotional Strength Just Because YOU Want to!

B'SD

4 Kislev, 5778

The skies and soil of Israel are filled with blessed rains. Somehow, rainy days let me ponder heartwarming thoughts better than on clear days.

When a person needs to change the way they respond to setbacks or unhappiness, so that they can go forward, they need to pretend that they are feeling more positively than they do feel.

Repeated practice lets a person gain insight into the emotions and insights of purposely positive behavior.

Eventually those upbeat ideas become part of their thinking process.



Go ahead, earn some Oscars. Act as if you're the person you want to meet. Be heroic, kind, patient. Do that until the traits become your automatic responses to stress.

Need a motivational thought to get you going? Try: 

"I am not what happened to me, 
I am what I choose to become." 
- Carl Jung



Keep trying. 

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Fill your efforts with productive purpose. The payoff is wonderful!

Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Facing the Future Despite the Painful Past

B'SD

18 Cheshvan, 5778

Headlines continue to hold evidence that malcontents already on law enforcement and mental health services radar remain free to strike defenseless innocents once again.

It's becoming somewhat of a repetitive pattern in the USA and elsewhere.

Survivors are increasingly focused on finding motivation to continue their lives, sad as they may feel.

They struggle to face the future despite a painful past.

They and you might appreciate this article about a hero who proved the efficacy of his teachings.



I hope that the article helped you and that you will seek out Logotherapy materials to help yourself to face a future despite your present pain.


 



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Monday, September 18, 2017

A Healing Season

B'SD

27 Elul, 5777

My mind and heart are awhirl with thoughts about the coming year, 5778. 5777 held so many heart-breaking moments, and some exhilarating ones.

I focus on healing hearts, bodies and minds as best I can with my day-to-day efforts. You read my writings at e.counseling.com, here on the blog, and in




I ask that you add to your healing potential by also reading Healing Powers of Apples and Honey


Rabanit Yemima Mizrakhi also shared some ideas, and here they are:


SPECIAL SEGULOT FOR ROSH HASHANAH, AS TOLD BY RABANIT YEMIMA MIZRAKHI:
It’s vital everyday not to get angry, but in particular on the first day of Rosh HaShanah, this is the day the Jewish people are judged, the gentiles are judged on the second day. On this day there is strict judgment in Shamayim (heaven) and it is a must not to get angry at all, not even to think in an angry way. Don’t invite guests that you know will ‘push your buttons’ that you will not be able to control, wait to host on the second day. Don’t get stuck in worry, anger and definitely not in sadness. The way the year begins, is the way it will flow the coming year. Don’t allow yourself to speak badly.




Before sitting down at the Seder look at everyone’s eyes and bless them each individually, feel forgiveness for everyone around you. Allow love and peace to enter your heart. Everyone should say a ‘L’Chaim’ out loud and bless each other with complete simcha.
The Rosh HaShanah table should be filled with abundance of colors, different types of foods.
Apples and honey: use red apples, it is a segula for a zivug, to find one’s soul mate/shalom bayit and for getting pregnant. It is an eit ratzon,special holy time, before eating the apple, smell the apple and ask for whatever you want. It was at this time that Ya’akov received the blessing from his father Yitzchak. When he smelled Ya’akov he smelled the fragrance of Gan Eden, of the apple, and even though he was undeserving of the bracha, due to the fact that it was supposed to go to Esav, he still received it. Ask for anything you wish.
Pomegranate and rubia (black-eyed peas): ask HaShem to bring out your potential. We all have never ending potential, do we use it all? Ask HaShem for help.. just like it’s hard to take apart the seeds, please HaShem help us realize our potential and be who we are meant to be.
Leeks, beets, dates: ask HaShem to take away any feelings of resentment, anger, bitterness towards anyone. Ask HaShem to help us throw these feelings away from ourselves and remove them from our heart. Ask HaShem to enable you to be able to rebuild your feelings and relationship with these people.
Fish head: ask HaShem that you should lead your household and not anyone else(like our children who tend to control us…) when looking at the fish, ask Hashem to protect you from the evil eye.
All throughout the seder, ask HaShem to make your home a palace: you the queen and your husband the king, your children the prince/princesses. Ask HaShem to make you all children of the King, this requires us to act like children of the King, meaning again: DO NOT GET ANGRY, WORRIED, DISTRESSED, be royal.
Get up early on Rosh Hashanah; this blesses the coming year with ease. A year that your wishes will be fulfilled quickly. Try to postpone your afternoon rest until after 1:00 pm.
It is vital to daven for parnassah on Rosh HaShanah, according to Rav Dessler ztk’l. This proclaims that we trust in HaShem and know that everything is from Him. Ask to be a giver of tzadakah.
Very important to dress festively, even wear white and be HAPPY
Before hearing the shofar accept upon yourself: v’Ahavta L’Reiacha Kamokha (Love your neighbour as you love yourself). If you hold a grudge towards someone in the shul, the shofar will not be able to ascend and sweeten the judgments.
During the shofar: think of the following: resurrection of the dead, that HaShem can revive anything that has ‘died out’ in you be it physically and spiritually. Don’t talk during the shofar blowing. Think about all that you want to be. We are being reborn!
Very important to shed a tear during the shofar and to wipe the tear over your forehead (to wipe away transgressions {AriZal zt’l}). This serves as a shield for the entire year against any bad things i.e. illness. Whoever is able to shed a tear then can be rest assured that she is being judged at that moment and if she comes back to teshuvah at that point, she will be blessed with a good year.
During the first blow of shofar, take one particular transgression that you did and ask for forgiveness. During the second blows of the shofar, the shevarim, hurt/cry for those who are in pain and in sorrow, i.e. the families of terror victims, the families that lost their loved ones, those who are ill….
During the next set of blows accept upon yourself a new mitzvah: tzniut, tefillah, tzedakah… The intention should be in your heart without uttering a word.
During Mussaf prayer when the chazzan says the word: ayeh, you can ask for one of three things, whisper to yourself:
1) Parnassah 2) Ruakh Hakodesh 3) Righteous Children
Once we hear the shofar on the first day of Rosh HaShanah, the judgments are lessened and sweetened and there is less stringency in Shamayim.
Don’t eat anything sour or spicy on Rosh HaShanah, only sweet foods. Everything that you do makes an impact on the entire year. Don’t use walnuts or black grapes.
OTHER SEGULOT:
1) Prepare the seder table early in the afternoon, it is a segula that no troubles will come upon you the entire year, B’H.
2) Try to do ta’anit dibur, not to speak, the morning of Rosh Hashanah (speak only words of Torah). If possible fast as well; this way 1/3 of your transgressions will be wiped away. This comes out on Wednesday morning.
3) Candles for Rosh HaShanah: before lighting give 18 of ‘something (coins, bills) to tzedakah: 18 cents, 18 dollars, etc.. This serves as a pidyon nefesh. Ask HaShem that if something bad c’v is supposed to happen, let the tzedakah stand as a protector against it.
4) Buy a new knife and use it on Rosh HaShanah eve to cut open the challah and apple. It is a segula for a long life and for parnassah.
5) Bake challahs: bake it in the shapes of a circle.
6) Bircat Hamazon: the first one said on Erev Rosh Hashanah say it with enthusiasm and joy, it is a segula for an abundance of parnassah.
7) Recite the following perakim of Tehillim Alef, Beit, Gimmel and Daled before sleeping on both nights to prevent bad dreams.
8) Buy a new dress/clothing for Rosh Hashanah. Intend on this new article when reciting the bracha of She’hechiyanu
REMEMBER TO PREPARE ERUV TAVSHILIN THIS YEAR…. 
ALSO IT IS THE YAHRZEIT /YOM SHANA OF SARAH IMEINU ON THE FIRST DAY OF ROSH HASHANAH, LIGHT A CANDLE AND DAVEN IN HER ZECHUT THAT WE SHOULD ALL BE ZOKHE TO BE WONDERFUL WIVES AND MOTHERS AS SHE WAS A TRUE TZADEKEt…ויהי רצון מלפני אדון כלהנשמות ריבון כל המעשים שתתחדש בחסד וברחמים ברכת רבי ישמעאל בן אלישעכהן גדול :יהי רצון מלפניך שיכבשורחמיך את כעסך ויגולורחמיך על מידותיך ותתנהגעמנו לפנים משורת הדיןHAVE A WONDERFUL CHAG AND GEULAH BEKAROV TO AM YISRAEL!!



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Wednesday, June 28, 2017

Unchained Fun!

B'SD

4 Sivan, 5777

I've been through an unusually busy period of time as my workload has increased in recent weeks. I'm writing more for www.e-counseling. com, chairing my community's summer picnic next week (it took 2 months of 'round the clock work from me and my picnic planning committee), caring for children, editing medical research and managing the rest of my life.

On top of that I recently completed 10 months of physically draining vision exams in the hopes of qualifying for a form of therapy that might prove helpful to me. Efforts will resume in November if all works out as planned.

I'm relaxing with happiness-building music. Care to listen in with me?



Despite the exhausting schedule and emotions lately, I charge up my batteries with unchained fun.




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Sunday, April 9, 2017

Exciting News!

B'SD

13 Nisan, 5777


While I'm enjoying the freshness and fun of my fully functional Passover/Pesakh Mode kitchen, I'm taking time to respond to editors seeking my input for future online and print articles.

I have exciting book reviews coming up and I'll be responding to Questions for Life Coaches. You can be sure that I'll share relevant publication news with you. Who knows? You might come across something that suits you, too!

No matter which holiday you celebrate this season, spend time thinking over the significance of spirituality. It's purpose is to make us more compassionate, more willing to share our resources, and more resilient when we face hardships. Spirituality practiced correctly helps us to rise above our limitations. We can become wonderful, accomplished, insightful, nicer than we have been.

My frequently used tool for helping someone is the Enneagram, a method for understanding the quirks of human personalities and the tools for working with them in productive ways.

Here's a bit of insight on how I help people to deal with unhappiness, disappointment, pain and life in general:

 I had an amusing conversation with a therapist who asked me to help her to write a thesis about the wisdom of using the Enneagram. I replied "But I can do that in one sentence: You will learn that a person's characteristics are 'givens,' not a matter of good or bad, just 'givens' that can be dealt with in specific ways." After she gulped, I added "I am not advocating that personality, thought or mood disorders are acceptable. They are exceptions to the rule."


Certified in counseling skills and in spiritual chaplaincy (the ability to discuss end-of-life issues), I write for a mental health site at http://www.e-counseling.com/

I'm a life coach for ill people, helping them to identify the goals they need to reach, then to prepare a plan for achieving those goals.

A former medical coder/Health Information Management professional, I'm well-versed in the medical world's ins and outs, acquainted with astonishing people and cutting-edge treatments. 

Certified in Counseling Skills, and one of the first certified EMETT leaders (I no longer lead EMETT groups), I have studied psychology throughout my adult life.

Medical and mental health professionals have endorsed the EMPOWER Yourself book on and off the covers. 



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I maintain a database of ever-updated medical information to help people to connect with the medical professionals and medical care, appliances, medication, etc. that they need. I even clue people in on cost-cutting programs that pay all or some of their specific medical bills. The book's Global Resources section holds much of that information.

Ready to figure out your health-oriented goals, and to set a plan for achieving them? Contact me at giveretgolani @ gmail.com.





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Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Give Yourself a Mental Health Minute!

B'SD

26 Shvat, 5777

I'm delighted to see the reader reactions to my various articles at e-counseling.com.

Here's what's happening at Facebook, let alone the comments under some of my bylines at e-counseling.com:


Dealing with depression, or is it dealing with you? Here's some help outta the mess.


Now you can benefit from A-Z options for online therapy to heal those problems (and/or your headaches and heartaches), too!
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Esther Hilf Revivo Bravo on an EXCELLENT article Yocheved! This is filled to the brim with useful information not only for those with depression, but family members who can go through the sites you mentioned above and nudge their loved ones to the places most suited to help them deal with their depression. Well researched, written with expertise and concise. Kudos!! (That was my comment. Sharing this!)
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Angela Schapiro very important info. Thanks Yocheved. I love your book.
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Here are more reactions to 
a different article I'd written:

Do you feel better, yet?

Optimal well-being for you is not the same as optimal well-being for someone else. Each person’s genetic, chemical, environmental, cultural and mental realties are different.
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Angela Schapiro I noticed that when I eat sensibly and exercise regularly, I am confident and at peace. I love your articles.
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Yocheved Golani Angela may I copy/paste your comment to my blogspot blog?
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Angela Schapiro of course! all the best...
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