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Showing posts with label emotional safety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label emotional safety. Show all posts
B'SD 9 Cheshvan, 5775 Medical drama is a reality. The emotions that rock you and your loved ones affect everyone around you, whether or not they show the reality. I found something at the Nurseeyeroll.com site worth sharing with you.
I just saw the doctor walk out of the room…the room of your husband on a ventilator, who after 12 days of no improvements, has had set back after set back.
NURSEEYEROLL.COM
That emotional barrier is a protective mechanism. It lets medical professionals focus on their skills so that they can tend to the patient in optimal fashion. But when that barrier turns to indifference, it endangers lives.
The
book shares information about
your safety-enhancing options
in such situations.
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I subscribe to various listservs, one of which is dedicated to self-improvement via religious ideals. The listserv often holds requests to pray for a specific someone who is ill.
I read a pleasant surprise in yesterday's update, after having shared a message with the listserv's owner. Days before the update came out, I had explained that not only do ill people need prayers for healing (refuot/רפואות), rescue from this or that (yeshuot/ישועות) situation, miracles (nisim/ניסים) and wonders (niflaot/נפלאות) to help them along, but also a serenity of the soul (shalvat hanefesh/שלוות הנפש) so that the mind-body connection can work together in a healing manner instead of working against each other and further harming the already suffering person.
Less stress is always conductive to mental and physical health.
Compassion is called for when someone, including ourselves, is ill. Serenity of the soul is possible. It takes a bit of work, lots of forgiveness, increasingly healthy perspective and repeated effort. It can be done. The payoff is heartfelt relief and a happier look at life.
I hope you'll share your thoughts about the messages and ideas above and below in the "Comments" section.
Today’s daily dose is dedicated to the refuah shleimah of Binyomin ben Batya. Please recite a kapitel of tehillim in his zechut, he is greatly suffering from pain in his back. May HaKadosh Baruch Hu send him refuot rabot, yeshuot rabot, nisim v’niflaot v’gam shalvat hanefesh amongst all of Klal Yisrael who are sick and suffering b’karov, b’rachamim, Amen! (Thank you to Yocheved Golani for formulating this bracha).
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We are continuing our journey to avodat Hashem with purity. Chazal teach us other valuable ways to achieve the goal of attaching to Hashem with purity and increased emuna. The following lessons will focus specifically on achieving a higher level of self- discipline and thereby minimizing transgressions in order to improve purity of heart.
We are all born with innate desires, attractions, thoughts and tendencies which need to be harnessed in order to achieve our maximum potential. Often we cannot control our thoughts as they feel involuntary. Yet, refusing to act on a thought represents the epitome of self-discipline and therefore holiness. Meeting the challenging task of refusing to bow to our temptations brings with it tremendous spiritual rewards.
Chazal set boundaries to safeguard us from sin. These borders are created to prevent us with our human frailties from entering a dangerous situation from which retreat will be virtually impossible. If the boundaries were left up to each individual, they would be pushed and moved to suit our ever changing wishes and individual challenges. Respecting the sages’ knowledge of our own character and weaknesses helps guide us on the right path.
Restraining ourselves from following our desires ultimately makes us feel good. Deep down our soul knows we are choosing the right thing. Rabbi Nachman ztk”l offers insight from the Zohar HaKadosh that controlling one’s urges creates a conduit for receiving bracha into the world. Hashem ‘yearns’ to send us blessings and we provide Him with this opportunity by controlling our desires. .
However when sin does transpire, we must admit to it and daven to Hashem asking for mechila (forgiveness). Rabbi Nachman teaches that the yetzer hara is like a trickster who runs around with his fist closed asking people, “What do you suppose I have in my hand?” To which each person imagines that the closed hand has in it just what he desires most. They all run after and follow him and when they reach him he opens his hand which is completely empty. This is the way of the evil one who lures us into sin without fulfilling any of our worldly desires!
This idea shines further light onto the insignificance of chasing after non-spiritual pursuits. They are meaningless and will lead us to transgress.
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Face Your Future with Optimism. Forgive yourself, knowing you've done your best with the tools at hand and the skills you've developed. Take pride in your future efforts to be even better. We're human, doing the best we can under complicated, confusing conditions.
I rarely blog on Fridays, but I know that they can be the set-up for some truly lousy weekends. Why?
Bigmouths tend to take their best shots for hurting someone's feelings then. Why is a whole 'nuther story.
So I'm blogging today to
improve your chances for a
better today and tomorrow.
Sad about the sickening things people say to or about you? EMPOWER Yourself with this amusing thought:
"I don't care what is
written about me as long
as it isn't true."
Katherine Hepburn
I can't verify that Kate ever said that, but you can adopt the sentiments all the same. Go for the gusto. Live your life with purpose, decency and fun. Let the liars rot in their pickled worldviews. You don't need to.
Let me know if today's post gives you or someone you know emotional pain relief. Some bon mots are just great for emotional and mental health. Guaranteed!
I'm savoring the flavor of ripe Israeli produce today, the new year for trees called Tu B'Shvat (the 15th day in the Jewish month called Shvat). And I'm pleased to let you know that questions are coming in to The Refua Radio Show! I'm doing my best to provide time-saving, cost-cutting and stress-busting answers to each and every problem presented in my INBOX atgiveretgolani@gmail.com. Those answers are based on
and on my ever-growing database of relevant information.
Now you can listen in for necessary information, too.
Many normal people cry at the shock, pain and frustration of a medical or disability diagnosis. Anger and sadness are other dimensions of the problem. So is a sense of guilt.
A medical crisis - you'd cry too, if it happened to you. Use your tissues and handkerchiefs with my blessings borne of experience. GOD gives you Permission to Weep (read about that on pages 5 and 6 in EMPOWER Yourself to Cope with a Medical Challenge). And you can say that to any critics after explaining that "It's MY Crisis! And I'll Cry if I Need To."
An ill, recovering or disabled person tends to have goals. Too often, other people fail to realize that. They over-focus on visible problems, not on the person’s inner self, their soul and spirit. The result: the infantilization of ill, recovering or disabled YOU (i.e., people treat you like a foolish baby or child, or worse – as an incompetent adult).
Here’s a thought that you can share with your unintentionally clueless loved ones and caregivers: We want to gain while helping the other person – YOU - to gain, too. Work WITH me, not AGAINST me, so I can achieve increased emotional, physical and/or spiritual health. That will make me happy - probably healthier - and it'll make you a better care provider!
It’s a safe, loving message, guaranteed to give other people a graceful way to improve their behavior (it’s their choice to make, not yours).
Print the words out on attractive paper. Decorate it somehow. Display the finished product. Invite the world at large to honor your productive goals.
Let me know how the above suggestion works out for you. I’m off to prepare for Tu B’Shvat festival of trees, now. The 15th day of the Jewish month of Shvat is quite an important, and fun, occasion.
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