A 2-Step Plan for Coping with Negativity

13 Elul 5767

I just learned from Booklocker, the publisher of my forthcoming book, that publication is in further progress. I plan to post a Media Release at this site as soon as the books are available for purchase.

Meanwhile, I want to share some insights with you about one of the worst problems that keep popping up during medical and emotional crises: NEGATIVTY. I've faced it lifelong, as have you. Medical or emotional crises increase our awareness of negativity. Here's a 2-Step Plan for Coping with Negativity. Use it when you're in a crunch.

1. Understand Who’s Responsible for Your Happiness

If we demand that someone or something change in order to make us happy, we place them and/or circumstances in control of our happiness. Dwelling on what’s not yet in your life is self-sabotage.

This concept applies to health and emotional crises.

Happiness is your responsibility. Keep inventory of what’s already “good” in your life. That helps you to weather difficult times. And it helps you to identify increasing goodness in your life.

Are people trying to help you?
Did something unexpected and pleasant happen to you?
Did something you dread fail to happen to you?
CELEBRATE!

And keep your positive moods going strong with smiles. Even when you must force a smile, you’re teaching your body that you can cope with distress.

Feeling down and can’t seem to shake the lousy mood? Announce out loud that you’re giving the negative vibes to the universe so the negativity can be recycled in some productive way.

2. Don’t Undermine Your Happiness. Avoid Commercials and Advertisements. I feel schizophrenic after reading or hearing content that tells me how wonderful I am, as I am. But the advertisements/commercials insist that I will not be fulfilled or realize my destiny unless I buy countless products to improve my figure, prowess, smile, income, furniture, etc. That tactic is great for publishers. They’ll keep selling their newest editions and broadcasts to insecure and confused customers trapped in the vicious cycle. Realize it for what is is: a sales tool with little to no bearing on reality.

Nobody gets to heaven or a calm state of mind because they used the correct toothpaste or scored the biggest business deal.

One more thought before I sign off today: I suspect that the reason so many forms of therapy (animal exposure therapy such as horse riding or holding warm, cuddly creatures, talk therapy, etc.) work as well as they do is because they maximize a person's intention to cope or to heal. Focus is key. When you increase your desire and awareness of how to cope with various issues, you do. You cope. And you heal as much as possible.

All the best, Yocheved

Mid-September or Late September

8 Elul , 5767

Snafus in the snail mail system led to a delay in the publication of my book. I know you're eager to read it, and I'm even more eager for that to happen! But fate set up the more traditional mid- to late September scenario for my book's debut. It has long been the traditional time for books of the new season to be launched.

The good news is that you and I will go with the flow and reap our rewards as soon as my book reaches the market. Meanwhile, I still respond to private E-mails upon request, with information from my "Resources Around the World" section. The facts that I share indicate contact information about benefiting from cutting-edge therapies and therapists, reduced-price medications and medical appliances, and a whole lot more.

Contact me with your questions at giveretgolani@gmail.com.

All the best, Yojeved

About the Life Coaching that I Do

2 Elul 5767

I'm breathless with anticipation for my book to be released. Success is all in the details (as are You-Know-Who and the yukky other you-know-who). I'll post the purchase information details as soon as they're reality.

Meanwhile, I want to draw your attention to the Life Coaching that I do.

My newest client made such remarkable progress since I began working with her in mid-July 2007. Now she sleeps better, is maintaining her diet, quit the job causing her sleepless nights and acid stomach, gets better results from her teen children (THAT is always a miracle!), found a better job just over a month after starting to work with me, and crows about my ability to zero in on problematic areas (yep, my intuition pays off in spades!) to help her to get the results she wants.

I help male clients, too. Ladies, I can assure you that men think of more than what you're accusing them of. That, too, but there's a whole lotta excellent character to admire in many men.

I draw on a diverse background of experience and expertise at helping people to go forward. I learned a lot about the human mind in my previous career as a Health Information Management professional in the USA. I examined medical and psychiatric records for legal, statistical, insurance and other purposes. I interacted with medical and mental health professionals from diverse areas of practice. The exposure led to quite an education about human thought processes.

Once certfied as an EMETT leader (based on the works of psychologist Dr. Miriam Adahan), I opted to study spiritual healing under the guidance of former Denver resident Ilan Feldman. I also studied the Psych-K Belief Change System and my successes at helping others mushroomed. These skills and my personal experience at coping with a horrific life and death situation led to the manuscript being published for the benefit of people facing their own medical and emotional crises. It's MY Crisis! can help you and or a loved one to manage the emotional and physical turmoil of a medical or emotional challenge.

Look for my next "post" after the weekend and buy your copy soon. All the best, Yojeved

Countdown to P-Day...

25 Av 5767, August 9 2007

Publication Day will soon be here. We had a small mechanical delay due to the artwork on my book cover (my fault for wanting to insert too much info on the back cover). The file, by the way, is too big for reproduction at this blog. What you see in the upper left corner of the blog is a close similarity to the fonts on the actual book cover.

Blurbs (in this case, praise from mental and medical health professionals) appear on the back cover with a quick synopsis of the book.

My graphics team is chugging out "On Sale Here" banners for stores that will carry It's MY Crisis! as well as the Licenses to Cry (they make great bookmarks!), my business cards and magnets.

The colorful assemblage will travel the world within my Media Kits for book reviewers, to buyers of my book, and to book shops.

If you want to receive my publicity materials via E-mail, let me know at giveretgolani@gmail.com. They'll take a bit of time to download on your PC.


See you in bookstores soon! Yojeved

The Book is Being Prepared for Sale as You Read this Update ;^ )

18 Av 5767, August 2 2007

It's a wonderful day in my writing life! Booklocker's staff is getting my book ready for international distribution as you read these words. And while your eyes are here, I want to add a BIG message of thanks to my wonderful, compassionate, intelligent and completely full of integrity publishers, Angela and Richard Hoy.

As soon as the URL for online purchases is ready, I will post it here. I will include information for bulk purchases at discounted prices.

That purchase information should make life simpler for business owners desiring to sell my book to clients. Several business owners have already contacted me to request such information. Yep, word is out around the world that "It's MY Crisis!" is a wonderful, inspiring read.

Expect to read my MEDIA RELEASE at this blog soon. I plan to send it to key people throughout broadcast and print media plus online news resources, and of course to the publishing, medical and mental health industries. A MEDIA RELEASE, by the way, is different from a press release. It is designed to be used by Internet sites, broadcast and print media, as well as by laypersons interested in receiving the information.

Information about the Life Coaching side of my life will be included with that Media Release and my forthcoming book.

Best of health to you and every blessing for goodness in your life,

Yojeved/Yocheved (see the left-hand margin for the reason why I spell my name two ways)

Food for Thought

July 28, 12 Av 5767

Scott Rose is a NYC-based writer. He read increasingly better drafts of my manuscript over time these past two years. Here is his recent assessment of "It's MY Crisis!":

"One of the things that makes you and your book so special is that in facing a truly dreadful crisis, you summoned inner and outer resources to a positive personal outcome, and you are able in the book to communicate what was involved in your doing that to people who will benefit from learning of your experiences and recommendations as regards coping."

I invite readers of this blog to send comments to me directly or to post them to this blog, as you wish. The interactive forum enables me to share information with readers who need it, prior to the distribution of my book. That arrangement has helped several people already, as you can tell by clicking on "Comments" to my posts.

Here is one of several such "interactive" examples that started with a message that appeared among my personal E-mails. It is one of many instances when the information in my book provided concrete assistance to people facing medical crisis. I removed personal details to protect the privacy of all concerned:

----- Original Message -----

From: "" <>

To: <>

Sent: Wednesday, July 25, 2007 2:24 PM

Subject: [BS/RBS list] Urgent appeal to help a young South African boy


Please can you forward this e-mail to any friends or family who may be able to help. A few weeks ago, while [abroad] on [a particular] one year training course for counselors to teens, [a young South African man] was admitted into [hospital] and diagnosed with leukemia.

[He] matriculated last year… is a popular member of [a specific social group]who has displayed leadership skills, drive and commitment to his charges and a love for imparting [knowledge and skills] as a counselor.

Seriously ill, he will now be requiring ongoing chemotherapy and in due course a bone marrow transplant…. [He] will need to be medically treated [in his location abroad] over a sustained period of time. He will need the support and care of his immediate family for the duration of the necessary treatments.

[Several international organizations] have endorsed a fund that is being set up to provide financial assistance to [the young man] and his family while [abroad]. The main areas of need will be in assisting with travel costs, accommodation and subsistence in as well as any other necessities.

* An urgent appeal is made** to the [wider] community to contribute towards this fund, which will be administered by a responsible communal panel with representatives of the above bodies, and the input of a professional social worker. *

*The appeal has been made on behalf of a family that really needs support at this very difficult time. Without it [the young man] would have to undergo major treatment while being separated for a long time from his mother, father and sister and with no immediate family to care for him. *

* *

[Contribution information was included with the message.]

--
Identity Deleted for Reasons of Privacy



I "CC'ed the writer above as well as some social workers involved with the case with information about potentially helpful medical organizations and individuals named in the "Resources" section of my book. Here is the result so far, a comment by one of the social workers on the case who permits me to use his name:


July 25 2007

Shalom Yocheved

Thank you for this important info

I will pass it on to our Social Worker, ____, who is dealing with the case

Regards, Dorron Kline


The social worker alluded to soon indicated to me that the young man's family is cheered with the list of resources I provided for both the foreign country in which their son is hospitalized, and for relevant resources in the wider world. My goal is to help people to prolong their lives and/or to heal, and to maximize their human dignity throughout their medical crisis. I hope to let you know that this goal is achieved with the young man referenced above, and with other people communicating with me. All the best, Yojeved

Harry Potter and the Zohar

July 22, 6 Av 5767

Like you, I'm trying to keep track of the body count in "Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows." I don't believe I've come across anything this deadly in literature other than in MacBeth and Hamlet. Whew!

Lots of choices being made, and much action flying across the pages. This story is not about passivity. And that leads in to my purpose for today's post.

The real point of today's update about my book is this: The Zohar teaches us “That which you see and hear you cannot help. What you say and do is up to you alone.”

That's a lesson from GOD, not J.K. Rowling. It's about taking action to help yourself and to help others.

Now, suppose Harry Potter used his head as the Zohar instructs students of its wisdom to think. Suppose all his readers did the same. Gather information about the wisdom of the Creator, study it with an expert scholar in these matters, and ponder your reactions to various stimuli very carefully. A person's goal should always focus on what GOD wants her/him to do about issues in life. Even Professor Dumbledore knew and respected the fact that a higher power than he existed.

Heads up, Hogwarts lovers and others! The Torah presents us with cases of a live talking mule, a talking, walking snake that lives on in infamy, a magical rock that gushes forth water for thirsty desert wanderers on command, mountains that squeeze murderers to death before they harm another soul and lots more supernatural stuff done without wands!

A reader contacted me to ask about what to do when someone doesn’t believe in GOD. My response is this: Simply act in as honest and respectful a manner as possible at all times. Be a person of integrity. Don’t lie, betray others, don’t steal ideas, friends or money. Use your sense of humor as productively as possible and develop a sense of humor if you need one. Reinforce your thoughts with upbeat messages to yourself and, when you have down moods, dwell on those upbeat thoughts.

If you reject the concept of GOD’s existence and/or desire for your best welfare, engage in a pleasant dialogue relationship with a clergyman or religious friend you respect. Read spiritually oriented materials and pay attention to similar fare on videos, CDs, tapes and websites. Give yourself permission to think about GODliness and do not weigh your mind or heart down with other agendas such as “I’ll pretend to be religious,” or “I’m going to become religious.” Simply do the exploration and educate yourself about the concepts of spirituality and GOD. Your spirituality can unfold from that point forward. And the "Harry Potter" series of books can put much of that information into an understandable context for you.

Something that I strongly advocate in my book is sensible eating habits. That includes protective internal cleansing, to get toxins and other bad stuff out of your system. When the body cleans out, it is like a lantern. The soul which is always shining brightly and beautifully, is the candle. When the glass on the lantern becomes clean, the light of the candle can be seen by all. You will see it, too. Gee, and you thought that mere magical chocolates were fun.

By the way, one of the interesting things going on behind the scenes of this blog is that a growing number of publishers are approaching me following my announcement that Booklocker will produce my book. I wish to achieve specific goals, and I'm selective about which publishers I'll consider. Stay tuned for news about how I achieve those very goals and why Booklocker is happy to participate in my achievement of them.

All the best, Yojeved